Connect first, then correct
by Miami Autumn, August 2020
It’s a phrase that's been repeated to me by professors and classmates, by coworkers and colleagues. It means, when someone makes a mistake, the goal should be to empathize with them first, before seeking to correct their mistake.
It wasn’t until recently that I realized just how relevant this phrase is to the MAP community. We are arguably the most-hated people on Earth, yet we continue to vilify one another for differences in beliefs, mistakes we've made, and struggles we've faced. When can we realize that ostracization and hate have never helped anyone?
I understand how frustrating it is to feel at odds with someone else’s beliefs or their actions. I know how awful it feels to have your efforts undermined by others. But, please, before you spark an argument with someone, try to understand them. Support them emotionally, ask questions about why they feel the way they do, find common ground to stand on, and focus on points where you agree.
Connect with them first, then correct them.