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by Miami Autumn, August 2020

It’s a phrase that's been repeated to me by professors and classmates, by coworkers and colleagues. It means, when someone makes a mistake, the goal should be to empathize with them first, before seeking to correct their mistake.

It wasn’t until recently that I realized just how relevant this phrase is to the MAP community. We are arguably the most-hated people on Earth, yet we continue to vilify one another for differences in beliefs, mistakes we've made, and struggles we've faced. When can we realize that ostracization and hate have never helped anyone?

I understand how frustrating it is to feel at odds with someone else’s beliefs or their actions. I know how awful it feels to have your efforts undermined by others. But, please, before you spark an argument with someone, try to understand them. Support them emotionally, ask questions about why they feel the way they do, find common ground to stand on, and focus on points where you agree.

Connect with them first, then correct them.

Miami Skyline

 
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from Miami Autumn's journal

by Miami Autumn, July 2020

When I first began teaching preschool, I was incredibly awkward and shy around the children I was caring for, especially the children who I thought were attractive. I just had no idea what to say or how to behave. It took me quite a while before I really felt comfortable around them.

Something I've realized talking to MAPs online is that a lot of them experience the same awkwardness and nervousness around children as I did. So, I decided to make this short post to share some things that I learned as a preschool teacher that helped me interact more-comfortably with the children in my care and with any other children. I've broken it down into three sections: nonverbal communication, verbal communication, and managing MAP feelings. .

Preface: When is it appropriate to interact with a child?

This is a tricky thing for a lot of people, not just MAPs. A good rule of thumb is: If you wouldn't interact with an adult in the same situation, then don't interact with a child either. If you have some mutual connection with them (e.g., you're friends with their dad), then it is generally okay to have casual interactions with them. But, if the child is a stranger to you (e.g., a cute kid at the supermarket), it's generally best not to say anything — you probably wouldn't say anything if they were an adult, so don't spark up an interaction just because they are a kid (people might think it's weird). That said, it's totally fine to have very casual interactions with strangers. E.g., if you're waiting in line at the market and the adult in front of you is wearing the logo of your favorite sports team, it's pretty normal to say something like, “hey, go Lakers, am I right?” It's probably fine to say something like that to a child too. Just, PLEASE don't be creepy. Kids probably won't want to talk to someone who is just looking for any excuse to interact. Keep it cool and casual. .

I. Nonverbal communication

Children's first impression of us is often the way we approach them. If we walk up-close and stand over them, it could be intimidating and shut-down the interaction. If you want to keep the interaction positive and comfortable for everyone, you're going to want to consider these few tips:

  1. Always approach children from the front, not from behind. This allows the child to see you and predict your movements.

  2. Keep a comfortable distance between the two of you, about the same distance you would keep with an adult (a meter or so). As you get to know the child better, they will feel more comfortable getting closer to you. It's important to respect children's personal space and boundaries.

  3. If they are significantly shorter than you (e.g., a toddler or preschooler), it's a good idea to squat down or sit down so that your eyes are at the same level when you make eye contact. This creates a more-respectful atmosphere and lets the child know that you see them as your equal.

  4. Skip the baby-voice. It's quite natural to speak more gently when talking to children (often higher pitch, softer words, etc.), and there's no issue with that. Just don't go all “goo-goo gaa-gaa” with them. Talk to them respectfully.

  5. Give the child your undivided attention. If there are other distractions going on, finish them up before beginning/continuing your interaction with the child. E.g., if someone is texting you, tell them that you will text them back later. Then, you can talk to the child without worrying about having to text someone back also.

  6. Be a good listener. Listen and attempt to understand everything the child is saying before responding. Never interrupt them, and never make assumptions about what you think they are going to say — just listen to them. .

II. Verbal communication

Trying to muster the confidence to squeak out those first few words can be terrifying, especially if they are a child who you are attracted to. But, keep it realistic: what's the worst that could happen? The child will ignore you? Think you're creepy? Walk away from you? I've had all of the above happen on multiple occasions. It hurts, but it's important not to take it personally. When you finally do get those first words out, here's some ideas of what to talk about and how:

  1. Talk about something in your immediate environment, i.e., something that both you and the child can see/hear/touch/etc. This makes the conversation more-relevant to both you and the child — it's something that both of you can relate to. E.g., MAP: “Did you hear that siren? What kind of car do you think it was?” Child: “An ambulance!” MAP: “I bet so! What do you think the ambulance is doing?” Child: “I think someone got hurt.” MAP: “You're probably right. Ambulances are for medical emergencies.”

  2. Narrate whatever is happening. It sounds like it would be redundant, but it's surprising how naturally this communication form works. Simply speak aloud whatever is going on in the environment. This style works especially well with infants and toddlers since they are still learning associations between words and events, but it works well with preschoolers and older kids as well, as a way to validate their experiences and begin conversation about them. E.g., if a toddler stacks six blocks atop one another, you can say something like “you stacked six blocks!” Pro-tip: this is also a GREAT replacement for saying things like “good job,” which are relatively impersonal. If a child achieves something, rather than saying “good job,” you can simply repeat their accomplishment back to them and let them know that they accomplished it. In theory, it helps them take pride in their own accomplishments rather than seeking approval from others. If you'd like to read more about this, I'd recommend checking out this brief article: https://www.alfiekohn.org/article/five-reasons-stop-saying-good-job/

  3. Ask open-ended questions about something immediate in the environment. This provokes the child's personal expression and creativity by allowing them to answer your question however they want to. I'd recommend checking out this website for some excellent examples of open-ended questions: https://minds-in-bloom.com/8-questions-to-ask-children-about-their/ Pro-tip: never assume you know what a child is drawing; ALWAYS ASK. If you assume wrong, it could be very offensive to the child.

  4. Ask about the child themself. Let's be real — most people love talking about themselves. Asking the child about themself and their life is a reliable way to shift the conversation into something more meaningful. Some good ways to make this transition are with “I noticed that...” or “I see that...” statements followed by a question. E.g., MAP: “I noticed that you have a cat on your shirt; are cats your favorite animal?” Child: “Yeah!” MAP: “Awesome! I like cats. Do you have any pet cats at home?” Child: “No, but I have a dog.” MAP: “Dogs are cool! What's your dog's name?” ... etc. .

III. Managing MAP feelings

  1. Actually building up the courage to begin an interaction with a child can be daunting. Even non-MAPs often get nervous interacting with kids. In fact, I still get nervous interacting with kids, even after working with dozens of kids as a preschool teacher. It's okay to feel nervous; it's just important not to over-catastrophize the situation when, in reality, as long as you remain appropriate in your interaction, the worst that can happen is you just have an awkward interaction and then go about your day. It's not a big deal. Try not to over-think it, okay? And, if it is any comfort to you, you should know that most kids I know are very non-judgmental (:

  2. For some MAPs, our sexual orientation makes interactions even more difficult because we are also constantly questioning ourselves and our intentions. I promise you — it's OKAY to talk to kids. As long as the interaction stays mutual, non-sexual, and non-abusive, then there is nothing wrong with it. And, the child probably doesn't know that you're attracted to them anyway, so there is no use fearing about that. Regardless of whether you're attracted to men, women, boys, girls, dogs, or squirrels, you have just as much right as anyone else to have safe interactions with people you care about.

  3. A lot of MAPs I've spoken to have worries that they may feel “tempted” to act inappropriately with a child in certain situations. My best advice for these situations is to avoid them, but that's not always possible. My next-best advice is to simply focus on being present in the moment — focus on the child and on the environment. If you're playing with a child, ask yourself, “what is the child experiencing right now?” Better yet, “what is the child learning right now?” And, answer these questions as thoroughly as you can. E.g., imagine a two-year-old child is stacking blocks atop one another — what are they learning? I'd say, they're learning about the force of gravity and how it affects the blocks' ability to balance; they're learning about how to move their own body in a way to stabilize their muscles in just the right position to stack the next block where it needs to be in order to balance. When you think about situations from this angle, one of learning and development, sexual “temptations” often become a thing of the past. And, if they persist, you can always politely excuse yourself for a moment while you calm down.

  4. Other “safety precautions” you can consider if you are concerned about your ability to behave appropriately: a) Avoid being alone with a child you're “tempted” to act sexually with; bringing someone along with you, even if they're just listening in on a phone call, can help you feel more empowered to refrain from inappropriate contact (the first several times interacting “alone” with my first little girlfriend, her older sister was on FaceTime with us the whole time ^–^). Even bringing along a second child can help mitigate feelings of “temptation.” b) Avoid locations that could be “tempting” to you; some MAPs feel “tempted” by being in a child's bedroom or by being in another secluded area with a child. If it may be “tempting,” avoid it. c) Avoid affection with kids that makes you feel “tempted.” Personally, I think any kind of affection that isn't sexual is perfectly appropriate for kids, but, if you feel that it may make you feel “tempted” to act in inappropriate ways, then avoid it. Draw a line and stick to it. For some people, the line may be at kissing; for others, it may be at hugging; and others will have different lines. .

Conclusion

Of course, this is all only scratching the surface of how and why to interact with children, but I hope that it is helpful nonetheless. Perhaps I will make a follow-up post with more details some day (:

If you have any questions, comments, or concerns, please feel free to message me on MAP Support Club or Virped, or email me at [email protected]

Little girl writing

Note: this article was updated in August 2020. Revisions included rewording some statements and adding a new link for more info in section II.2.
 
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from MSC's Official Blog

Hi!

I'm writing you with mixed news that you will want to sit down for. On May 13th, one of our staff members in MAP Support Club, a peer support chat designed for minors, notified us that there was a claim that a relatively new MAP ally on Twitter killed themselves. We were initially skeptical.

The MAP ally's name was Randy, and for the past two to three weeks, they were taking abuse and harassment simply for supporting minor attracted people like myself and those in our community. That led to their death. I know this because one of our allies, Rusty Warner, put a call into an FBI agent he knows, and confirmed on May 14th that they are investigating his suicide, which happened on May 9th. Randy was 19 years old.

As an administrator of MAP Support Club, I am devastated to hear that Randy and those close to him didn't have the support he needed because our support chat, which we run through a partnership with Prostasia Foundation, is well equipped to advise people on how to stay safe on social media and provide support when people need it. We have the proper rules and privacy policy in place.

Until last month, we have kept our chat very private, only telling trusted allies of our existence for fear of being infiltrated by trolls and haters. In the month since we've gone public, we haven't had many trolls. While that can always change, as administrator, I believe it is time that MAP Support Club stops hiding and starts helping. But we can't do it alone.

We don't have therapists in our chat. Our staff doesn't have and doesn't know how to access crisis training resources to help us be more effective in helping people. We don't have the ability to scan our server for illegal images and report offenders. We don't have the ability to actively monitor minor direct messages for possible exploitation. These things take time, connections, technical expertise, and of course, money.

We need your help. If you run an organization with a website, please consider listing our blog page, and stay tuned for that to update to a website in the next few months. If you are a therapist, please consider donating your time. If you have financial resources, please consider sharing them. If you talk to minor attracted people, please talk about our community. If you're not already in our community, please consider joining. All I need is an email with a username you'd like to go by in our chat, and for you to fill out the attached PDF (if you are currently in MSC, please fill out the attached form and email it back as a reply all).

Randy was only trying to help minor attracted people and spread awareness of the challenges and hatred that we face. For that, he was bullied into suicide. Please help us so we can help prevent more people from harming themselves.

Thank you for your time,

Timothy N. Fury

Advocate for the Primary Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse

Administrator in MAP Support Club.

 
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from PedoViking

A couple days ago when we were giving a new member full member status, we discovered a hilarious bug with the MSC Bot.

The bot suddenly started spamming messages, as if it was executing the same command over and over again. The reason?

Whenever a reaction was added to or removed from a message, the bot treated it like it just received the message again!


The Issue

The change in the message stream doesn't really differentiate between a new/removed reaction to a message, and an entirely new message.

This is the “event” the bot receives when a reaction is added or removed from a message:

{
  _id: 'Adyuyjf8MvFcWixi9',
  rid: '738H9FSvBLGwSX5rS',
  msg: 'test emoji',
  ts: { '$date': 1587525487948 },
  u: {
    _id: 'XgHsc6JaAu9HgtaDb',
    username: 'PedoViking',
    name: 'OliverViking'
  },
  _updatedAt: { '$date': 1587525494548 },
  mentions: [],
  channels: [],
  reactions: { ':rocket:': { usernames: [Array] } }
}

It's just the message object itself. How can the bot know that this is a reaction to a message? First one might think to check whether the reactions object is present, but that only solves half of the issue. Because when a reaction is removed, so that no reactions are present on the message anymore, the reactions object will be gone.

The Fix

It turned out to be quite a simple fix. Just had to switch the message handler (it attaches a callback to the changes in the message stream) out with a higher level message handler built into the JavaScript SDK.

Before:

  // Connect the processMessages callback
  driver.reactToMessages(processMessages)

After:

  // Connect the processMessages callback
  driver.respondToMessages(processMessages, {
    rooms: true,
    dm: true,
    edited: false,
  })

This higher level message handler has a lot of built in checks. Most of them are configurable, as shown above. The developer can choose if they want the bot to respond to DMs, edited messages, and which rooms to respond to.

Why does this solve the issue though? How does respondToMessages handle filtering out emojis? Well, a quick look through the source code reveals that it actually just checks whether the message was created before the last message the bot received.

    // Set current time for comparison to incoming
    let currentReadTime = new Date(message.ts.$date)

    // Ignore edited messages if configured to
    if (!config.edited && message.editedAt) return

    // Set read time as time of edit, if message is edited
    if (message.editedAt) currentReadTime = new Date(message.editedAt.$date)

    // Ignore messages in stream that aren't new
    if (currentReadTime <= lastReadTime) return

#devlog #msc #code

 
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from PedoViking

The way MSC Bot handles permissions before today was by having an if statement in every command that required a specific role:

Since every command has roughly the same structure, there was a lot of duplication of these if statements. Almost every command had one of them.

To get rid of this duplication, and to simplify the creation of new commands, I added an option field to the exported object (each command exports an object with various information about the command) called requireOneOfRoles. This field should be an array of role names, exactly the same array as in the image above.

The exported object from the addMAP command

Now in the main file where I loop over all the commands to check which command is being called, I can now also check if the user has the required permission!

(Yes, I know. That if statement needs some refactoring :P)

MSC Bot functions exactly the same way as it did before all these changes, but it is now easier for me to add more commands, because I don't have to do the permission logic every time!


Something that did change the way MSC Bot functions though, was the help command. Previously the help command just used to show all the commands, didn't matter if you actually had the permissions to execute the commands or not.

Well now, with the refactoring of the permissions, I was able to filter out commands based on the permissions!


#devlog #msc #code

 
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from MSC's Official Blog

Are the blogs public?

You have different settings you can choose for your blog:

  • Unlisted (visible only to those who have the link)
  • Private (only you can view the blog and no one else)
  • password-protected
  • public (open to the entire web)

Can readers follow my blog?

Yes, in a few ways. MSC Blogs is part of the fediverse, meaning that a user on something like Mastodon can follow you from their Mastodon account, your posts will then also appear in their feed. The other way users can follow your blog is by subscribing to an RSS feed.

What can I blog about?

Anything! It doesn't have to be pedophilia related, but it certainly can aswell. Post about whatever you want; use it as a daily journal, post art, poems, songs, your attractions and struggles or victories with it, etc.

Can I delete my blog posts after publishing them?

Yes. You can always delete your blog posts from MSC Blogs.

However, there is a caveat. If someone is following your blog using the fediverse or just simple RSS they will get a copy of your blog post. We cannot guarantee that your blog post will be deleted on other servers.

Basically, the issue with deleting something off of the internet, is that as soon as someone else has a copy of it, there is no guarantee that it can be deleted. Someone might take a screenshot of your post or just copy paste the text somewhere.

 
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from MSC's Official Blog


General Blogs

• "Celibate Pedophiles", by Ethan Edwards — http://celibatepedos.blogspot.com/

• "Not A Monster", by Todd Nickerson — https://notamonsterblog.wordpress.com/

• "Pensamentos Folle", by Lucas P. Folle (Portuguese/English) — http://pensamentosfolle.blogspot.com

• "A Life Less Lonely", by Leonard – https://livingwithpedophilia.wordpress.com/


Blogs and Publications

• Pedophiles About Pedophiliahttps://aboutpedophilia.com/


Other Websites

• Virtuous Pedophiles, a website for non-offending, anti-contact pedophiles (fill in contact form to access peer support forum) — http://www.virped.org

• B4U-ACT, organization to educate mental health providers and promote access to mental health support for MAPs, with a peer support forum for MAPs and support options for friends and relatives — http://www.b4uact.org

• Christian Pedophile, a website for Christian pedophiles — http://www.christianpedophile.com/

• Cepek, Czech site for non-offending pedophiles — http://www.pedofilie-info.cz

• The Primary Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse, site with resources about preventing CSA — https://www.csaprimaryprevention.org/


#Resources

 
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from MSC's Official Blog


2010

• "Gold Star Pedophiles", Dan Savage, The Stranger (Feb 4, 2010) — http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=3347526


2012

• "Another Gold-Star Pedophile", Dan Savage, The Stranger (Mar 7, 2012) — http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=12927907

• "Do pedophiles deserve sympathy?", James Cantor, CNN (Jun 21, 2012) — http://www.cnn.com/2012/06/21/opinion/cantor-pedophila-sandusky/

• "Meet pedophiles who mean well: The men behind VirtuousPedophiles.com are attracted to children but devoted to denying their desires", Tracy Clark-Flory, Salon.com (Jun 30, 2012) — http://www.salon.com/2012/07/01/meet_pedophiles_who_mean_well/

• "Born This Way: Sympathy and Science for Those Who Want to Have Sex with Children", Cord Jefferson, Gawker.com (Sep 7, 2012) — http://gawker.com/5941037/born-this-way-sympathy-and-science-for-those-who--want-to-have-sex-with-children

• "The Science of Pedophilia: Is It a Sexual Orientation?", Makini Brice, Medical Daily (Sep 7, 2012) — http://www.medicaldaily.com/science-pedophilia-it-sexual-orientation-242403

• "How Can We Stop Pedophiles? Stop treating them like monsters", Jennifer Bleyer, Slate.com (Sep 24, 2012) — http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/medical_examiner/2012/09/stop_childhood_sexual_abuse_how_to_treat_pedophilia_.html

• "Sandusky Will Die in Prison, and We Talked To a Pedophilia Expert", Vinnie Rotondaro, Vice (Oct 9, 2012) — https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/gqwkx4/sandusky-will-die-in-prison-and-we-talked-to-a-pedophilia-expert


2013

• "Paedophilia: Bringing Dark Desires To Light", Jon Henley, The Guardian (Jan 2, 2013) — http://www.theguardian.com/society/2013/jan/03/paedophilia-bringing-dark-desires-light

• "Many researchers taking a different view of pedophilia", Alan Zarembo (Jan 14, 2013) — http://articles.latimes.com/2013/jan/14/local/la-me-pedophiles-20130115

• "The Science of Sex Abuse. Is it right to imprison people for heinous crimes they have not yet committed?", Rachel Aviv, The New Yorker (Jan 14, 2013) — http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2013/01/14/the-science-of-sex-abuse

• "Pedophilia, Preemptive Imprisonment, and the Ethics of Predisposition", Kyle Edwards, Practical Ethics, University of Oxford (Jan 21, 2013) — http://blog.practicalethics.ox.ac.uk/2013/01/pedophilia-preemptive-imprisonment-and-the-ethics-of-predisposition/

• "Are Some Men Born Pedophiles? New Science Says Yes, But Sexologists Say Not So Fast", Steven Rosenfeld, AlterNet (Jan 21, 2013) — http://www.alternet.org/are-some-men-born-pedophiles-new-science-says-yes-sexologists-say-not-so-fast

• "Happy Birthday, Virtuous Pedophiles!", James Cantor, Sexology Today Blog (Jul 15, 2013) — http://www.sexologytoday.org/2013/07/happy-birthday-virtuous-pedophiles.html#more

• "The Missing Link Between Pedophiles and the Rest of Us", Alice Dreger, Pacific Standard (Jul 16, 2013) — https://psmag.com/social-justice/meet-the-hebephiles-the-missing-link-between-pedophiles-and-the-rest-of-us-62633

• "A prevention-first approach to child sexual abuse", Elizabeth Letourneau, The Baltimor Sun (Aug 6, 2013) — http://articles.baltimoresun.com/2013-08-06/news/bs-ed-child-sexual-abuse-20130806_1_child-sexual-abuse-substance-abuse-csa

• "I, Pedophile", David Goldberg, The Atlantic (Aug 26, 2013) — https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/08/i-pedophile/278921/

• "What Can Be Done About Pedophilia?", Alice Dreger, The Atlantic (Aug 26, 2013) — http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/08/what-can-be-done-about-pedophilia/279024/

• "Not All Pedophiles Have Mental Disorder, American Psychiatric Association Says In New DSM", Hunter Stuart, The Huffington Post (Nov 1, 2013) — http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/01/dsm-pedophilia-mental-disorder-paraphilia_n_4184878.html

• "Is Pedophilia a Sexual Orientation?", Laura Kane, Toronto Star (Dec 22, 2013) — http://www.thestar.com/news/insight/2013/12/22/is_pedophilia_a_sexual_orientation.html


2014

• "Inside the mind of a paedophile", Martin McKenzie-Murray, The Saturday Paper (May 10, 2014) — https://www.thesaturdaypaper.com.au/news/society/2014/05/10/inside-the-mind-paedophile/1399644000

• "Study Finds Pedophiles’ Brains Wired to Find Children Attractive", Charlotte Lytton, Daily Beast (May 23, 2014) — http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/05/23/study-finds-pedophiles-brains-wired-to-find-children-attractive.html

• "Virtuous Pedophiles group gives support therapy cannot", Amber Hildebrandt, CBC News (Jul 18, 2014) — http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/virtuous-pedophiles-group-gives-support-therapy-cannot-1.2710160

• "The Pedophiles Who Didn’t Want to Hurt Children", Choire Sicha, The Awl (Aug 11, 2014) — https://theawl.com/the-pedophiles-who-didnt-want-to-hurt-children-7ea5d5a81c17

• "You’re 16. You’re a Pedophile. You Don’t Want to Hurt Anyone. What Do You Do Now?", Luke Malone, Matter (Aug 11, 2014) — https://medium.com/matter/youre-16-youre-a-pedophile-you-dont-want-to-hurt-anyone-what-do-you-do-now-e11ce4b88bdb

• "Should we do more to help paedophiles?", Rebecca Roache, Practical Ethics, University of Oxford (Aug 12, 2014) — http://blog.practicalethics.ox.ac.uk/2014/08/should-we-do-more-to-help-paedophiles/

• "Pedophilia: A Disorder, Not a Crime", Margo Kaplan, The New York Times (Oct 5, 2014) — https://www.nytimes.com/2014/10/06/opinion/pedophilia-a-disorder-not-a-crime.html

• "We Need to Make It Easier for Pedophiles To Seek Help", Elizabeth Letourneau, Time (Oct 10, 2014) — http://time.com/3486493/preventing-child-sex-abuse-stephen-collins/

• "'I Am A Paedophile': Is Our Approach To Sex Offenders Helping To Create More Victims?", Steve Humphries, The Independent (Nov 24, 2014) — http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/i-am-a-paedophile-is-our-approach-to-sex-offenders-helping-to-create-more-victims-9880699.html

• "When society mistakes pedophiles for molesters", Kate Ferguson, dw.com (Dec 12, 2014) — http://www.dw.com/en/when-society-mistakes-pedophiles-for-molesters/a-18104211

• "Virtuous pedophiles exist", Kelly Babchisin, NextGenForensic (Dec 19, 2014) — https://nextgenforensic.wordpress.com/2014/12/19/virtuous-pedophiles-exist/


2015

• "Can you stop a paedophile before they even start?", Dominic Hurst, BBC News (Feb 4, 2015) — http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-31114106

• "5 Ways We Misunderstand Pedophilia (That Makes it Worse)", Robert Evans, Cracked.com (Feb 8, 2015) — http://www.cracked.com/personal-experiences-1658-5-ways-were-making-pedophilia-worse.html

• "How Precision in Language Can Help Prevent Sexual Abuse", Kelly Babchishin, Sexual Abuse: A Journal of Research and Treatment (Feb 20, 2015) — http://sajrt.blogspot.se/2015/02/how-precision-in-language-can-help.html?m=1/

• "Child Celibate: Understanding Non-Offending Pedophilia", Alexander McBride Wilson, Lens Culture (May 2015) — https://www.lensculture.com/projects/105782-child-celibate-understanding

• "In Germany, they treat paedophiles as victims… not offenders", Rose Troup Buchanan, The Independent (Jul 14, 2015) — https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/in-germany-they-treat-paedophiles-as-victims-not-offenders-10387468.html

• "Facing Disturbing Truths About Pedophilia Could Help Us Keep Kids Safer", Brian Whitney, Pacific Standard (Jul 16, 2015) — https://psmag.com/social-justice/facing-disturbing-truths-about-pedophilia-could-help-us-keep-kids-safer

• "As courts censure civil detention practices, is it time for professionals to speak up?", David Prescott, Forensic Psychologist (Sep 14, 2015) — http://forensicpsychologist.blogspot.se/2015/09/as-courts-censure-civil-detention.html

• "I’m a pedophile, but not a monster", Todd Nickerson, Salon.com (archive.is) (Sep 21, 2015) — http://archive.li/NhhZ4#selection-2353.1-2353.36

• "I'm a Pedophile, You're the Monsters", Todd Nickerson, Salon.com (archive.is) (Sep 30, 2015) — http://archive.li/VYx1X

• "How Germany treats paedophiles before they offend", Kate Connolly, The Guardian (Oct 16, 2015) — https://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/oct/16/how-germany-treats-paedophiles-before-they-offend

• "The pedophile I could not help", Debra Soh, Salon.com (Oct 27, 2015) — http://www.salon.com/2015/10/27/the_pedophile_i_could_not_help_he_was_not_a_monster_or_a_molester_the_system_destroyed_him_anyway/

• "Sympathy for the Deviant", Jennifer Bleyer, Psychology Today (Nov 3, 2015) — https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201511/sympathy-the-deviant

• "Are paedophiles' brains wired differently?", BBC News Magazine (Nov 24, 2015) — http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-34858350

• "Of People and Pedophiles", Sean Smith, The Varsity Magazine (Nov 28, 2015) — http://magazine.thevarsity.ca/2015/11/28/of-people-and-pedophiles/


2016

• "Stigma and non-offending pedophiles", Ian McPhail, NextGenForensic (Jan 10, 2016) — https://nextgenforensic.wordpress.com/2016/01/10/stigma-and-non-offending-pedophiles/

• "Can Child Dolls Keep Pedophiles from Offending?", Roc Morin, The Atlantic (Jan 11, 2016) — https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/01/can-child-dolls-keep-pedophiles-from-offending/423324/

• "Can Virtual Sex Prevent Pedophiles from Harming Children in Real Life?", Cecilia D’Anastasio, Broadly (Jan 14, 2016) — https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/d7am4w/can-virtual-sex-prevent-pedophiles-from-harming-children-in-real-life

• "Realizing You're A Pedophile Can Make you Want To Kill Yourself", Paul Willis, Vice (Jan 15, 2016) — https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/yvxkpv/realizing-youre-a-pedophile-can-make-you-want-to-kill-yourself

• "Sentencing Memorandum in Case Involving Child Pornography", Jack Weinstein, US District Court, Eastern NY (Jan 21, 2016) — https://www.scribd.com/doc/296450418/USA-v-RJ-sentencing-pdf

• "Should this man go to prison for buying a child sex doll?", Kristen Brown, Fusion (Feb 1, 2016) — http://fusion.kinja.com/should-this-man-go-to-prison-for-buying-a-child-sex-dol-1793854394

• "For Looking at Child Porn, a Judge Imposes a Sentence of Days Rather Than Years", Jacob Sullum, Reason.com (Feb 1, 2016) — http://reason.com/blog/2016/02/01/for-looking-at-child-pornography-a-feder

• "DARK NET: The “Virtuous” Online Pedophile Forums", Ian Frisch, Vocativ (Feb 3, 2016) — http://www.vocativ.com/279399/pedophile-forums-dark-net/

• "Newfoundland’s Child Sex Doll Trial Raises Uncomfortable Questions About Pedophilia and the Law", Dorian Geiger, Vice (Feb 25, 2016) — https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/kwxj7w/newfoundlands-child-sex-doll-trial-raises-uncomfortable-questions-about-pedophilia-and-the-law

• "What should we do about paedophiles?", Sophie Elmhirst, The Guardian (Mar 1, 2016) — https://www.theguardian.com/society/2016/mar/01/what-should-we-do-about-paedophiles?CMP=share_btn_link

• "I, Pedophile dares to empathize", Martin Knelman, The Star (Mar 9, 2016) — https://www.thestar.com/entertainment/television/2016/03/09/i-pedophile-dares-to-empathize-knelman.html

• "Tackling A Tough Subject: Why I Made a Documentary About Pedophiles", Matthew Campea, CBC FirstHand (Mar 10, 2016) — http://www.cbc.ca/firsthand/blog/tackling-a-tough-subject-why-i-made-a-documentary-about-pedophiles

• "Four Misconceptions About Pedophiles", CBC FirstHand (Mar 10, 2016) — http://www.cbc.ca/firsthand/features/four-misconceptions-about-pedophiles

• "Berlin doc terms pedophilia a sexual orientation", The Times of India (Mar 10, 2016) — http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/pune/berlin-doc-terms-pedophilia-a-sexual-orientation/articleshow/51339142.cms

• "The List", Sarah Stillman, The New Yorker (Mar 14, 2016) — http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2016/03/14/when-kids-are-accused-of-sex-crimes

• "Non-Offending Pedophiles Suffer From Isolation", Robert Muller, PhD, Psychology Today (Mar 17, 2016) — https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/talking-about-trauma/201603/non-offending-pedophiles-suffer-isolation

• "Paedophilia a 'sexual orientation – like being straight or gay'", Ian Johnston, Independent (Apr 3, 2016) — http://www.independent.co.uk/news/paedophilia-sexual-orientation-straight-gay-criminal-psychologist-child-sex-abuse-a6965956.html

• "A coming out that has to remain a secret", Ben Kirssen (Apr 13, 2016) — https://pedofieltweets.wordpress.com/2016/04/13/a-coming-out-that-has-to-remain-a-secret/

• "How Should Society Handle Pedophiles Who Haven’t Hurt Anyone?", Jesse Singal, Science of Us (Apr 13, 2016) — http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/04/how-should-society-handle-pedophiles-who-haven-t-hurt-anyone.html

• "How is Pedophilia a Health Issue?", Ruby Prosser Scully, The Medical Republic (Apr 29, 2016) — http://medicalrepublic.com.au/paedophilia-health-issue/

• "Beyond Choice & Reason: Non-Offending Pedophilia", Alexander McBride Wilson, Flint Magazine (May 1, 2016) — http://www.flintmag.com/portfolio/beyond-choice-non-offending-paedophilia/

• "Can paedophilia really be cured with drugs?", Belinda Winder, The Conversation (May 17, 2016) — https://theconversation.com/can-paedophilia-really-be-cured-with-drugs-59216

• "‘Virtuous Pedophiles’ Put Therapists In An Ethical Catch-22", Tracy Clark-Flory, Vocativ (May 23, 2016) — http://www.vocativ.com/315929/pedophiles-seeking-help-put-therapists-in-ethical-catch-22/

• "Disclosing a sexual interest in children to others: The experience of a non-offending pedophile", Ian McPhail interview with @ender, NextGenForensic (Jun 12, 2016) — https://nextgenforensic.wordpress.com/2016/06/12/disclosing-a-sexual-interest-in-children-to-others-the-experience-of-a-non-offending-pedophile/

• "Is Paedophilia A New Sexual Orientation?", Chester Frampton, Wessex Scene (Jun 15, 2016) — https://www.wessexscene.co.uk/magazine/2016/06/15/is-paedophilia-a-new-sexual-orientation/

• "Should We Lift the Stigma on “Virtuous Pedophiles”?", Sherry Colb, Verdict (Jul 12, 2016) — https://verdict.justia.com/2016/07/12/lift-stigma-virtuous-pedophiles

• "First, save the children", The Economist (Aug 11, 2016) — https://www.economist.com/news/leaders/21704794-punitive-laws-intended-protect-children-sexual-assault-too-often-make-them-less

• " Mandatory Reporting Consultation", StopSO (Aug, 27,2016) — https://stopso.org.uk/mandatory-reporting/

• "Shedding light on the dark field", The Economist (Aug 13, 2016) — https://www.economist.com/news/international/21704795-understanding-sexual-attraction-children-essential-if-they-are-be-kept

• "What It’s Like to Be a Celibate Pedophile", Alexa Tsoulis-Reay, Science of Us (Aug 18, 2016) — http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/08/what-its-like-to-be-a-celibate-pedophile.html

• "Preventing Child Abuse: How To Work With Paedophiles To Stop The First Crime From Happening", Juliet Grayson, The Huffington Post (Aug 26, 2016) — http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/juliet-grayson/child-abuse-paedophilia_b_11684296.html

• "Counterpoint: After Jacob, work harder to prevent child sexual abuse", Elizabeth Letourneau, Star Tribune (Sep 8, 2016) — http://www.startribune.com/counterpoint-after-jacob-work-harder-to-prevent-child-sexual-abuse/392817391/

• "A Different Perspective for Stopping Child Sexual Abuse", Elizabeth Letourneau, Psychology Today (Sep 11, 2016) — https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/prevention-now/201609/different-perspective-stopping-child-sexual-abuse

• "He Is A Paedophile, But That Does Not Make Him A Child Molester", Juliet Grayson, The Huffington Post (Sep 18, 2016) — http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/juliet-grayson/he-is-a-paedophile-but-th_b_12046562.html

• "Should we care when Paedophiles are murdered?", Cursed E (Sep 21, 2016) — https://cursede.blog/2016/09/21/paedophiles-anger-and-death/

• "Why Would Someone Choose to Be a Monster?",Simon Lewsen, The Walrus (Sep 28, 2016) — https://thewalrus.ca/why-would-someone-choose-to-be-a-monster/

• "Brains of paedophiles who abuse children are different to those who do not, scientists discover", Ian Johnston, The Independent (Oct 25, 2016) — http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/paedophile-brains-difference-child-sex-abusers-those-who-dont-study-a7378911.html

• "Inside The Brain Of A Pedophile: MRI Scans Reveal Differences In Those Who Harm Children And Those Who Do Not", Dana Dovey, Medical Daily (Oct 25, 2016) — http://www.medicaldaily.com/inside-brain-pedophile-mri-scans-reveal-differences-those-who-harm-children-402364

• "Model project for pedophiles saved", DW.com (Oct 25, 2016) — http://www.dw.com/en/model-project-for-pedophiles-saved/a-36154362

• "He's a 'Good Pedophile'", Chantal McCulligh, Anxiety Gone (Oct 27, 2016) — http://anxiety-gone.com/hes-good-pedophile/

• "'Virtuous pedophile' who admits being attracted to children but has never abused anyone is trying to encourage others in his situation to come forward", Julian Robinson, Mail Online (Nov 17, 2016) — http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3945648/Virtuous-pedophile-admits-attracted-children-never-abused-trying-encourage-situation-come-forward.html

• "Self-confessed paedophile claims he's ETHICAL for not abusing children – and wants to change society's views on his sexual desires", Tom Midlane & Anthony Bond, The Mirror (Nov 17, 2016) — http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/world-news/self-confessed-paedophile-claims-hes-9277056

• "Here’s a Weird New Discovery About Pedophiles", Jesse Singal, Science of Us (Nov 23, 2016) — http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/11/heres-a-new-discovery-about-pedophiles.html

• "Can Programs Like "Help Wanted" Prevent Child Sexual Abuse?", Elizabeth Letourneau, Psychology Today (Dec 12, 2016) — https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/prevention-now/201612/can-programs-help-wanted-prevent-child-sexual-abuse


2017

• "'Comfortably out' paedophile says he chooses not to act on his urges but fantasises about children", Jon Sharman, The Independent (Jan 7, 2017) — http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/gary-gibson-comfortably-out-paedophile-urges-mental-health-tabitha-abel-a7514746.html

• "Who is Gary Gibson and what is a ‘virtuous paedophile’?", Maryse Godden, The Sun (Jan 11, 2017) — https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/2587878/gary-gibson-virtuous-paedophile-christian-anti-pornography/

• "Paedophiles need help, not condemnation – I should know", BBC Three (Feb 10, 2017) — http://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/item/3216b48d-3195-4f67-8149-54586689ae3c

• "British wife of ‘virtuous paedophile’ who is attracted to girls as young as SIX still loves him and plans to stick by him", Tom Gillespie, The Sun (Feb 15, 2017) — https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/2548631/british-wife-of-virtuous-paedophile-who-is-attracted-to-girls-as-young-as-six-still-loves-him-and-says-he-has-a-mental-health-issue/

• "We need to talk about pedophiles", Jim Brown, CBC Radio (Feb 19, 2017) — http://www.cbc.ca/radio/the180/sometimes-it-s-ok-to-drop-civility-rewriting-historic-road-signs-and-understanding-pedophiles-1.3986807/we-need-to-talk-about-pedophiles-1.3986933

• "Salon Shouldn’t Have Unpublished Its Article by a Pedophile Author", Jesse Singal, Science of Us (Feb 22, 2017) — http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2017/02/salon-shouldnt-have-unpublished-its-pedophilia-article.html

• "To stop paedophiles, we need to help them. But no one wants to hear that", Deborah Orr, The Guardian (Feb 28, 2017) — https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/feb/28/not-jailing-paedophiles-protecting-children-crisis-care?CMP=share_btn_tw

• "To prevent child sex abuse, paedophilia needs to recognised as mental disorder", RN Bhaskar, The Free Press Journal (Mar 8, 2017) — http://www.freepressjournal.in/interviews/to-prevent-child-sex-abuse-paedophilia-needs-to-recognised-as-mental-disorder/1030860

• "Paedophilia is 'fate, not a choice', leading scientist claims", Tom Embury-Dennis, The Independent (Mar 14, 2017) — http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/paedophilia-causes-not-a-choice-fate-claims-leading-scientist-a7629786.html

• "Paedophilia is a fate and not a choice, German doctor says", Divya Chandrababu, The Times of India (Mar 14, 2017) — http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/chennai/paedophilia-is-a-fate-and-not-a-choice-german-doctor-says/articleshow/57619901.cms

• "The Unjust, Irrational, and Unconstitutional Consequences of Pedophilia Panic", Jacob Sullum, Reason (Mar 15, 2017) — https://reason.com/archives/2017/03/15/sex-and-kids

• "Child Sex Dolls Are Horrifying — But Some Say They Prevent Abuse", Tracy Clark-Flory, Vocativ (Mar 16, 2017) — http://www.vocativ.com/411779/child-sex-dolls-abuse/

• "Challenging societal negativity towards paedophiles", Craig Harper and Ross Bartels, NextGenForensic (Mar 26, 2017) — https://nextgenforensic.wordpress.com/2017/03/26/challenging-societal-negativity-towards-paedophiles/

• "An Uncomfortable Truth Under Scope: What Causes Pedophilia?", Mr. Peppermint, Onedio (Apr 24, 2017) — http://onedio.co/content/an-uncomfortable-truth-under-scope-what-causes-pedophilia-15951

• "My grown up son just told me he is sexually attracted to children", Dr. Sarah Goode, NetDoctor (Jun 8, 2017) — http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/healthy-living/sexual-health/a28334/paedophile-family/

• "Shocking study shows just half of those who watch child porn are paedophiles", Jon Rogers and Monical Pallenberg, Express (Jul 10, 2017) — http://www.express.co.uk/news/world/826985/Child-pornography-study-paedophiles-Jens-Wagner-research-Elysium

• “Two paedophiles speak: What it’s like to be born in a body with a “cursed” mind.”, Michelle Andrews, Mamamia (Sep 2, 2017) — http://www.mamamia.com.au/non-offending-paedophiles/

• "The young paedophiles who say they don’t abuse children", Catherine Burns, BBC (Sep 11, 2017) — http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-41213657

• "What it's like to be a paedophile", Kelan Mahon, The Overtake (Dec 7, 2017) — https://theovertake.com/~alpha/being-a-paedophile/


2018

• "Is attraction to an age group another kind of sexual orientation?", Michael C. Seto, The Conversation (Jan 23, 2018) — http://theconversation.com/is-attraction-to-an-age-group-another-kind-of-sexual-orientation-88074

• "Online Support Groups Can Keep Pedophiles From Offending but They Keep Getting Shut Down", Katie Herzog, The Stranger (Jul 20, 2018) — https://www.thestranger.com/slog/2018/07/20/29453977/online-support-groups-can-keep-pedophiles-from-offending-but-they-keep-getting-shut-down


#Resources

 
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from MSC's Official Blog

• "Pedophilia and sexual offending against children: Theory, assessment, and intervention.", Seto, M (2008) — https://www.amazon.com/Pedophilia-Sexual-Offending-Against-Children/dp/1433801140/

• "Understanding and Addressing Adult Sexual Attraction to Children", Goode, S. (2009) — https://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Addressing-sexual-Attraction-Children/dp/0415446260/

• "Child Molesters: A Behavioral Analysis", Kenneth V. Lanning (2010) — http://www.missingkids.com/publications/NC70

• "The Trauma Myth: The Truth About the Sexual Abuse of Children and Its Aftermath", Clancy, S. (2011) — https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Myth-Sexual-Children-Aftermath/dp/0465022111/

• "Pedophiles in Society", Goode, S. (2011) — https://www.amazon.com/Paedophiles-Society-Reflecting-Sexuality-Abuse/dp/023027188X/

• "Rehabilitating Sexual Offenders: A Strength-Based Approach", William L. Marshall (2011) — http://www.apa.org/pubs/books/4317257.aspx

• "Internet Sex Offenders", Seto, M. (2013) — https://www.amazon.com/Internet-Sex-Offenders-Michael-Seto/dp/1433813645/

• "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental disorders, 5th Edition (DSM-5)", American Psychiatric Association (2013)

• "Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us", Bering, J. (2014) — https://www.amazon.com/Perv-Sexual-Deviant-All-Us/dp/0374534837/

• "Terminology Guidelines for the Protection of Children from Sexual Exploitation and Sexual Abuse", Susanna Greijer and Jaap Doek (2016) — http://luxembourgguidelines.org/english-version/

• "Virtuous Pedophiles", Gary Gibson (2018) — https://www.amazon.com/Virtuous-Pedophiles-Gary-Gibson/dp/1979937184/

• "Past the Dark Field", Sheila van den Heuvel-Collins (2019) — https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07N46VW5K


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