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Peer support is something you rarely hear in most contexts outside a professional atmosphere. Why is that? It is primarily because with most issues, even stigmatized issues, people can talk about them and get support. Drug addiction? You can join support groups, get support with getting clean, go to a rehab center, talk with people online... all with little to no serious problems.

For minor-attracted people, though, that is not realistically an option. If we go to a mental health support group, people talk and therapists can report us to the police because they simply do not know enough about minor attraction to be properly supportive. In some cases, therapists choose not to learn and would rather refer people to someone else. There are few, if any, therapy centers that specialize in sexuality enough to know how to treat minor-attracted people in a supportive and non-judgmental way. So what professional or peer support is available to minor-attracted people? Not much.

If we tell friends, family, or neighbors, we take the risk that they might out us as a pedophile to the entire community. If we are seen by someone we know in a dedicated therapy office, we take that same risk. Our options are improving, but still very limited compared to most other struggles out there.

The benefits of peer support vary widely. For many, the biggest thing we learn is a label by which we can call ourselves. For some, anti-contact MAP is that label. Some choose no-contact or non-contact, which is an emerging term to indicate that no amount of sexual contact with a child is acceptable, including for the purposes of creating sexually harmful imagery. Others choose simply to call themselves a pedophile – someone attracted to prepubescent children – because they believe that identifying their stance is inherently stigmatizing. Regardless, having a term we identify with is one step closer to feeling heard, validated, and accepted.

Many minor-attracted people have very big issues with self-esteem and hating themselves for their attractions. So, to have support from others who go through the same thing can be positively life-changing.

There are, of course, inherent PR risks to minor-attracted people gathering for the purposes of peer support. The less educated folk think we go around sharing sexually harmful images, regardless of having removed people from our community for attempting to do so and having clear policies in our terms of service against sharing even innocent images of children. These misunderstandings are, unfortunately, commonplace among people who erroneously believe they do not know any minor-attracted people.

Regardless of these misunderstandings and the reasons for them, peer support also gives people who are open to learning an opportunity to talk to us. It gives researchers a place to post surveys and studies, and it gives sympathetic professionals a place to possibly volunteer once they pass our vetting process. It also ensures a place where minor-attracted people concerned about morality and wanting to keep children safe a comfortable place to find community. Weighed against the PR risks, there is no realistic reason why peer support should not exist for everyone who needs support.

 
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from Miami Autumn's journal

Miami Autumn — March 2021

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Emotional abuse can affect anyone of any age, especially children and the elderly. MAPs could be vulnerable to emotional abuse by anti-MAPs and by the general population because of stigma and discrimination. Emotional abuse is preventable. All people can help by learning what it is, what effects it is associated with, and how to prevent it. ‎ ‏‏‎ ‎

Definition

Emotional abuse (also referred to as verbal abuse) includes behaviors used to “manipulate, intimidate, and maintain power and control over someone” (Brennan, 2020). Emotional abuse can manifest as a variety of behaviors:

  • Yelling
  • Name-calling
  • Humiliation
  • Threats
  • Harming others (including pets)
  • Stealing or breaking possessions
  • Damaging or destroying property (including slamming doors)
  • Other aggressive, manipulatory, and derogatory behaviors

Emotional abuse often affects children and often gets ignored when it is disregarded as being “discipline.” Emotional abuse is not discipline — it is abuse. Emotional abuse, including yelling at or shaming children, is ineffective at changing children's behavior in the long term and is harmful (Sege & Siegel, 2018). ‏‏‎ ‎

Potential effects

According to a meta-analysis conducted by Norman et al. (2012) that included 124 studies, emotional abuse is associated with various illnesses:

Strong evidence

  • Anxiety disorders
  • Depressive disorders
  • Illicit drug abuse
  • Sexually transmitted infections
  • Suicidality
  • Risky sexual behavior

Inconsistent evidence

  • Alcohol abuse
  • Eating disorders
  • Obesity
  • Tobacco abuse
  • Type-2 diabetes mellitus

Limited evidence

  • Cardiovascular disease
  • Migraines
  • Schizophrenia

Emotional abuse is also associated with physical abuse and often precedes it (Karakurt & Silver, 2013). ‏‏‎ ‎

Pathophysiology

Alterations in the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenocortical axis seen in depressive disorders subsequent to emotional abuse may be associated with changes in DNA methylation at stress-related genes (Farrell et al., 2018). Degree of DNA methylation may or may not be associated with cortisol levels (Farrell et al., 2018; Tang et al., 2020). Decreased reactivity to cortisol has been seen in individuals with a self-reported history of emotional abuse (Carpenter et al., 2009; Abercrombie et al., 2017). ‏‏‎ ‎

Prevention

Preventing emotional abuse begins first with recognizing all people, including children, as individual humans who are deserving of health and well-being. Emotional abuse does not become permissible under certain circumstances (such as when angry at a spouse or when attempting to discipline a child); it is always abuse.

Individuals should utilize healthy coping mechanisms to manage emotional stress and avoid acting violently towards others (see: Anger management; Stress management), and identify defensive communication strategies and replace them with supportive communication strategies (see: Diffusing defensive communication; Defensive & supportive communication Security notice: use Tor Browser when visiting this site due to unencrypted connection).

Caregivers of children should practice positive behavior management strategies and avoid all forms of punishment (see: Toddler discipline without shame Note: this is relevant to children of all ages, not just toddlers).

If you or a loved one is experiencing emotional abuse or is engaging in emotional abuse, please contact a medical professional for advice. This article is for education only and is not intended as medical advice. ‏‏‎ ‎


References

Abercrombie, H. C., Frost, C. P., Walsh, E. C., Hoks, R. M., Cornejo, M. D., Sampe, M. C., Gaffey, A. E., Plante, D. T., Ladd, C. O., & Birn, R. M. (2018). Neural signaling of cortisol, childhood emotional abuse, and depression-related memory bias. Biological psychiatry. Cognitive neuroscience and neuroimaging, 3(3), 274–284. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bpsc.2017.11.005.

Brennan, D. (2020, November 24). Signs of verbal abuse (emotional and verbal abuse). WebMD. https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/signs-verbal-abuse.

Carpenter, L. L., Tyrka, A. R., Ross, N. S., Khoury, L., Anderson, G. M., & Price, L. H. (2009). Effect of childhood emotional abuse and age on cortisol responsivity in adulthood. Biological psychiatry, 66(1), 69–75. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.biopsych.2009.02.030.

Farrell, C., Doolin, K., O' Leary, N., Jairaj, C., Roddy, D., Tozzi, L., Morris, D., Harkin, A., Frodl, T., Nemoda, Z., Szyf, M., Booij, L., & O'Keane, V. (2018). DNA methylation differences at the glucocorticoid receptor gene in depression are related to functional alterations in hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis activity and to early life emotional abuse. Psychiatry research, 265, 341–348. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psychres.2018.04.064.

Karakurt, G., & Silver, K. E. (2013). Emotional abuse in intimate relationships: the role of gender and age. Violence and victims, 28(5), 804–821. https://doi.org/10.1891/0886-6708.vv-d-12-00041.

Norman, R. E., Byambaa, M., De, R., Butchart, A., Scott, J., & Vos, T. (2012). The long-term health consequences of child physical abuse, emotional abuse, and neglect: a systematic review and meta-analysis. PLoS medicine, 9(11), e1001349. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pmed.1001349.

Sege, R. D., & Siegel, B. S. (2018). Effective Discipline to Raise Healthy Children. Pediatrics, 142(6), e20183112. https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2018-3112.

Tang, R., Howe, L. D., Suderman, M., Relton, C. L., Crawford, A. A., & Houtepen, L. C. (2020). Adverse childhood experiences, DNA methylation age acceleration, and cortisol in UK children: A prospective population-based cohort study. Clinical epigenetics, 12(1), 55. https://doi.org/10.1186/s13148-020-00844-2.

 
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from Miami Autumn's journal

Miami Autumn — March 2021

Online teaching. Little girl working on the laptop. by Nenad Stojkovic
Online teaching. Little girl working on the laptop. by Nenad Stojkovic
Anti-MAPs (antis) have a long history of harassing, doxxing, and endangering minor-attracted persons (MAPs). Hence, security and privacy are necessities for MAPs; this includes both social and technical implications. If you have any suggestions for this article, please contact me.

I. Social protection

Identity

It is strongly recommended to use a pseudonym when participating in MAP communities or discussing minor attraction online. Effective pseudonyms are difficult to tie back to a MAP's personal identity. Be aware of what is being shared and whether it may be identifying. Overly specific details shared from a MAP identity could potentially lead back to a personal identity.

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Details such as a general age (e.g., 20s) or general location (e.g., United States) alone are not identifying. However, when combined with other data (e.g., time zone, state/city, occupation, exact age, birth month, interests, hobbies, etc.), a person's identity can be narrowed down to relatively few people. While this alone isn't necessarily dangerous, it can be in some circumstances, especially if a MAP's personal identity is also public (e.g., on public social media, published literature, etc.).

In addition to being cautious about what's shared through their MAP identity, a MAP should also be cautious about what's shared through their personal identity. It's advisable for public figures in the MAP community to consider limiting or deleting personal social media accounts and making an effort to reduce their digital footprint. Techlore has an excellent video tutorial about how to accomplish this effectively.

Publicity and permanency

Assume that MAP communities are public and that anyone can gain access to them if they are dedicated enough, and assume that anything said on the internet is permanent. Even if something is deleted, there is no guarantee whether someone may have already saved it offline, especially on public social media sites such as Twitter, Mastodon, and Reddit.

Trust and sensitive information

In MAP communities, trust is earned, not given. Always question the possibility that someone isn't who they say they are. Be cautious when sharing sensitive information, and never publicly admit to unadjudicated illegal activity.

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Only disclose sensitive information if everyone in the conversation is also willing to disclose the same sensitive information.

When disclosing any kind of sensitive information, do so on a secure, end-to-end encrypted platform such as Session, Element, Signal, or Telegram secret chats (regular chats are not end-to-end encrypted on Telegram). Direct messages in most MAP communities and public social media are not private and can be read by community administrators. View the messaging and email section for more info.

Disclose sensitive information conservatively and gradually. Talk to the person for at least several weeks, and ask questions to affirm their trust. Ask how they feel about the topic, drop hints at it, etc. Be reasonably confident that the person is who they say they are and that they can be trusted with the information intended to be disclosed.

Always keep in mind that publicly disclosing unadjudicated illegal activity is a rule violation in most MAP communities and is dangerous. Never publicly admit to unadjudicated illegal activity.

II. Technical protection

Browsers

People rely on their browser to protect them from online tracking. Common browsers like Google Chrome and Microsoft Edge allow people to be tracked and have poor privacy customization options.

Tor Browser is the best browser for privacy and security. It is designed to make people using it look like everyone else using it, so people cannot be targeted by trackers. When using Tor Browser, web traffic is routed through the Tor network (view the networks section for more info), which means that websites and attackers cannot see a person's real location; they can only see that a person is using Tor.

Tor Browser is based on Firefox, which is also a solid option for secure browsing if it is customized and paired with a virtual private network (view the networks section for more info). Safari is another secure browsing option for people who use iOS and MacOS.

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To ensure that a browser isn't storing local logs of browsing activity, enable private browsing mode. Some browsers allow private browsing to be set as the default browsing mode. Tor Browser is always in private browsing.

Tor Browser offers three security settings: standard, safer, and safest. These options are sufficient for nearly all browsing circumstances. However, if online activities require the utmost security, people should use TailsOS (view the operating systems section for more info) with the safest security settings in Tor.

Important: The safest security setting in Tor Browser uses NoScript to block JavaScript elements on webpages but does not actually disable JavaScript. To disable JavaScript natively, people must go to about:config in Tor Browser and toggle javascript.enabled so that is it set to false. JavaScript should be disabled in circumstances requiring utmost security because it increases attack surface and leaves people vulnerable.

Do not change any settings in Tor Browser except for the security setting and disabling JavaScript. The settings in Tor Browser are specifically designed to resist tracking and make everyone using Tor look the same. Changing settings can decrease anonymity.

In Firefox, browser fingerprinting can be resisted by going to about:config and toggling privacy.resistFingerprinting so that it is set to true. This setting is enabled by default in Tor Browser.

For iPhone users: The official Tor Browser is not available on iOS because iOS requires browsers to use WebKit (Tor Browser is based on Firefox, not WebKit). iPhone users can use Onion Browser by Mike Tigas, which is endorsed by the Tor Project. Onion Browser is open-source and provides adequate privacy/security for nearly all use cases. However, Onion Browser has some known limitations.

Never use the Android Tor Browser or Onion Browser for activities that require utmost security. Mobile devices have inherent limitations that cannot be surmounted, and this could place users at risk in some situations.

Encryption

Unless a device has been encrypted, chances are that all of the data on that device is accessible to anyone who gets ahold of it. Encryption protects people's data by making it appear to be a string of random characters until a passphrase is entered to decrypt it.

VeraCrypt is free and open-source encryption software that can be used on Linux, MacOS, and Windows. iPhones are encrypted by default when a passcode is enabled, and encryption on Android phones depends on the model.

Important: If a device is powered on and a passphrase has been entered to decrypt it, then it is not fully encrypted again until it is powered off. In order to encrypt the device completely again, power the device off; do not just lock it.

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Most operating systems have native encryption software that can be utilized. VeraCrypt is free, open-source, and cross-platform.

Androiddepends on the model and may require people to manually enable encryption in settings or download an app that encrypts the device.

iPhone — encrypted automatically when a passcode is set in the FaceID/TouchID & Passcode menu in Settings.

Linux — can use LUKS for encryption. Enabling this depends on the distribution.

MacOS — has FileVault start-up disk encryption that can be enabled in the Security & Privacy menu in System Preferences. Disk Utility can be used to encrypt external drives and create encrypted partitions within MacOS.

VeraCrypt — available for Linux, MacOS, and Windows and can be used to encrypt system partitions as well as to create standard encrypted volumes and hidden volumes.

Windows — does not offer free encryption software. However, VeraCrypt is available for Windows.

Messaging and email

Direct messages in most MAP communities and public social media are not private and can be read by community administrators. When disclosing any kind of sensitive information, do so on a secure, end-to-end encrypted (E2EE) platform such as Session, Element, Signal, or Telegram secret chats (regular chats are not E2EE on Telegram). End-to-end encryption ensures that message content can only be read by the person sending the message and the person(s) receiving the message.

It is highly recommended for MAPs to use a separate email address for their MAP identity that is not tied in anyway to their personal identity. Protonmail and Tutanota are two email providers with strong privacy practices. Email is generally not considered a secure form of communication; however, Protonmail and Tutanota allow the option to send E2EE emails that require a password to open. If both people are using the same email provider, then emails are sent E2EE without requiring a password.

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Session is open-source, E2EE, and uses an onion-routing network to ensure that people using the app are anonymous. It does not require a phone number, email address, or anything else to register.

Element is open-source and has an option for E2EE (it is not always enabled; it must be enabled manually). Element requires a real email address to register, but this email address is not displayed to other people.

Telegram is partially open-source and uses E2EE in secret chats (regular chats are not E2EE). Secret chats are only one-to-one; E2EE group chats are not supported. Telegram requires a real phone number in order to register, and this phone number is shared by default; however, phone number sharing can be disabled in the Telegram settings. When adding a new contact, Telegram shares people's phone numbers by default, but this can be prevented by disabling it when adding new contacts. If Telegram has access to a person's contacts, it will allow people to find each other using their phone numbers.

Signal is open-source and E2EE. It requires a real phone number, and this phone number is shared with others.

Networks

One method that antis use to dox MAPs is to send a link to a website that will gather the MAP's internet protocol (IP) address, giving the anti the MAP's approximate location. With that information, antis can narrow a MAP down to very few people and figure out the MAP's personal identity.

To protect against this, MAPs can use Tor. The Tor network is a decentralized network of servers that provides people with anonymity. When a person is connected to Tor using the Tor Browser (view the browsers section for more info), websites they visit are only able to see that somebody using Tor is accessing their website; they cannot see the person's real IP address.

MAPs can also use a virtual private network (VPN), which acts as a proxy between a person, their ISP, and the websites they’re visiting. VPNs are similar to Tor in this regard, but they are less secure/private than Tor. ProtonVPN is a free VPN with strong privacy practices. Other solid choices for VPNs include IVPN, Mullvad VPN, NordVPN, and ExpressVPN.

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Without any special precautions, internet service providers (ISPs) and other attackers like the police can view all of the websites people visit and the data transmitted to and from them (e.g., browsing activity, passwords, etc.), and the internet protocol (IP) address of the person transmitting the data (which can be used to find people's approximate locations).

By using HTTPS, which is relatively standard now, the data transmitted to and from websites is encrypted so that only the person sending the data and the website they're sending it to can see it. However, websites that are visited are still visible to the person's ISP and to attackers, and the person's IP addresses is still visible to websites and to attackers. Even if a site is not using HTTPS, Tor still encrypts traffic in transit to Tor relays. When using Tor, a person's ISP can only see that they are accessing Tor, not what websites they are accessing. EFF has an awesome visual representation of how Tor and HTTPS work to protect people's privacy.

Tor is more secure/private than a VPN because a VPN only provides pseudonymization, meaning that people who use VPNs still look unique; whereas, Tor provides anonymization, meaning that everyone using Tor appears the same. In addition to this, VPNs require trust in the company operating them to keep their data private. Tor is open-source and decentralized, so trust is not required.

Operating systems

Both MacOS and Windows collect data on people by default. However, on MacOS, this data collection is minimal and anonymized so that it cannot be traced back to a person's real identity, and most of this data collection can easily be opted out of in System Preferences. Windows, on the other hand, tracks people who use it, and it is difficult (and in some cases impossible) to opt-out of data collection. Regardless of their operating system of choice, people should spend time exploring the settings and disabling any unnecessary data collection.

For people who want the most private and secure option, Linux is the desktop operating system of choice. It is free and open-source, and there are many different distributions of it for a variety of uses. TailsOS is a linux distribution that runs off of a USB drive. TailsOS is amnesic, meaning that data is stored temporarily in RAM and is deleted when the operating system is shut down, and all network traffic in TailsOS is routed through Tor (view the networks section for more info), making people's internet activity anonymous. Other Linux distributions include Debian, Ubuntu, and many more.

On mobile, iPhone (iOS) is a more secure and private option than company-built Android phones (e.g., Samsung Galaxy). iOS has minimal, anonymized data collection that can be easily opted out of (much like MacOS). Stock Android phones like the Google Pixel can be used to install a custom operating system like CalyxOS or GrapheneOS.

Passwords/passphrases

It's a good idea to shift thinking from passwords to passphrases. Using a short phrase comprised of uncommon words is more secure than using a single word or a random string of a few letters. Including number and symbols can also improve passphrase strength. This also makes it easier to remember because words are easier to remember than letters. Some examples of passphrases (do not use these specific passphrases):

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Using a secure password manager is a convenient way to have passphrases stored for easy access. Most browsers have a built-in password manager; however, these password managers are not always as secure as other options. Firefox has a secure built-in password manager. BitWarden is a free, open-source password manager. People who use MacOS and iOS can use iCloud Keychain, which is end-to-end encrypted but is closed-source.

 
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from Miami Autumn's journal

Miami Autumn — October 2020

We know that attraction to minors and sexual activity with minors are different: 91.3-95.2% (0.99 CI) of minor-attracted persons (MAPs) have not been convicted of engaging in sexual activity with a minor (Bailey et al., 2016), and 76.5-92.0% (0.99 CI) of persons who have been convicted of engaging in illegal sexual activity with a minor are not attracted to minors (Kesicky et al., 2014). Yet, MAPs rely on organizations like the Association for Sexual Abuse Prevention, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers, the Global Prevention Project, the Moore Center for the Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse, Stop It Now, B4U-Act (“before you act”), etc. to find therapy and other professional resources.

Am I alone in feeling that the only reason why these organizations care about MAPs is for the purpose of preventing them from acting sexually with minors?

I dream of when the health, safety, and well-being of minor-attracted persons is a priority rather than a means to an end.

Little girl wishes


References

Bailey, J. M., Bernhard, P. A., & Hsu, K. J. (2016). An internet study of men sexually attracted to children: Correlates of sexual offending against children. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 125(7), 989-1,000. https://doi.org/10.1037/abn0000213.

Kesicky, D., Andre, I., & Kesicka, M. (2014). EPA-0284 – Pedophiles and (or) child molesters. European Psychiatry, 29(1), 1. https://doi.org/10.1016/S0924-9338(14)77731-4.

Notes: 1) These studies (and millions more) are available for free on Sci-Hub! Remember to use Tor when accessing anything that requires anonymity. 2) Both studies referenced contain methodological deficits that could affect the reliability and generalizability of their results. 3) If you're wondering why I use the terms “sexual contact” and “sexual activity” instead of “abuse,” then stay tuned for upcoming posts!

 
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from Miami Autumn's journal

Miami Autumn — August 2020

It’s a phrase that's been repeated to me by professors and classmates, by coworkers and colleagues. It means, when someone makes a mistake, the goal should be to empathize with them first, before seeking to correct their mistake. It wasn’t until recently that I realized just how relevant this phrase is to the MAP community. We are arguably the most-hated people on Earth, yet we continue to vilify one another for differences in beliefs, mistakes we've made, and struggles we've faced. When can we realize that ostracization and hate have never helped anyone?

I understand how frustrating it is to feel at odds with someone else’s beliefs or their actions. I know how awful it feels to have your efforts undermined by others. But, please, before you spark an argument with someone, try to understand them. Support them emotionally, ask questions about why they feel the way they do, find common ground to stand on, and focus on points where you agree.

Connect with them first, then correct them. ‏‏‎ ‎

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from Miami Autumn's journal

Miami Autumn — July 2020

Little girl writing
Update 2/16/21: Because this article continues to receive a lot of attention, I'd like to clarify a few concerns that have been raised. Please view this article for details: https://blog.mapsupport.club/8ruuk2lj7m.
When I first began teaching preschool, I was incredibly awkward and shy around the children I was caring for. I just had no idea what to say or how to behave. It took me quite a while before I really felt comfortable around them. Something I've realized talking to MAPs online is that a lot of them experience the same awkwardness and nervousness around children as I did. So, I decided to make this short post to share some things that I learned as a preschool teacher that helped me interact more-comfortably with the children in my care and with any other children. I've broken it down into three sections: nonverbal communication, verbal communication, and managing MAP feelings. ‏‏‎ ‎

Preface: When is it appropriate to interact with a child?

This is a tricky thing for a lot of people, not just MAPs. A good rule of thumb is: If you wouldn't interact with an adult in the same situation, then don't interact with a child either. If you have some mutual connection with them (e.g., you're friends with their dad), then it is generally okay to have casual interactions with them. But, if the child is a stranger to you (e.g., a cute kid at the supermarket), it's generally best not to say anything — you probably wouldn't say anything if they were an adult, so don't spark up an interaction just because they are a kid (people might think it's weird). That said, it's totally fine to have very casual interactions with strangers. E.g., if you're waiting in line at the market and the adult in front of you is wearing the logo of your favorite sports team, it's pretty normal to say something like, “hey, go Lakers, am I right?” It's probably fine to say something like that to a child too. But, keep in mind that a lot of kids probably won't want to talk to someone who is just looking for any excuse to interact. Keep it cool and casual. ‏‏‎ ‎

I. Nonverbal communication

Children's first impression of us is often the way we approach them. If we walk up-close and stand over them, it could be intimidating and shut-down the interaction. If you want to keep the interaction positive and comfortable for everyone, you're going to want to consider these few tips:

  1. Always approach children from the front, not from behind. This allows the child to see you and predict your movements.

  2. Keep a comfortable distance between the two of you, about the same distance you would keep with an adult (a meter or so). As you get to know the child better, they will feel more comfortable getting closer to you. It's important to respect children's personal space and boundaries.

  3. If they are significantly shorter than you (e.g., a toddler or preschooler), it's a good idea to squat down or sit down so that your eyes are at the same level when you make eye contact. This creates a more-respectful atmosphere and lets the child know that you see them as your equal.

  4. Skip the baby-voice. It's quite natural to speak more gently when talking to children (often higher pitch, softer words, etc.), and there's no issue with that. Just don't go all “goo-goo gaa-gaa” with them. Talk to them respectfully.

  5. Give the child your undivided attention. If there are other distractions going on, finish them up before beginning/continuing your interaction with the child. E.g., if someone is texting you, tell them that you will text them back later. Then, you can talk to the child without worrying about having to text someone back also.

  6. Be a good listener. Listen and attempt to understand everything the child is saying before responding. Never interrupt them, and never make assumptions about what you think they are going to say — just listen to them. ‏‏‎ ‎

II. Verbal communication

Trying to muster the confidence to squeak out those first few words can be terrifying, especially if they are a child who you are attracted to. But, keep it realistic: what's the worst that could happen? The child will ignore you? Think you're creepy? Walk away from you? I've had all of the above happen on multiple occasions. It hurts, but it's important not to take it personally. When you finally do get those first words out, here's some ideas of what to talk about and how:

  1. Talk about something in your immediate environment, i.e., something that both you and the child can see/hear/touch/etc. This makes the conversation more-relevant to both you and the child — it's something that both of you can relate to. E.g., MAP: “Did you hear that siren? What kind of car do you think it was?” Child: “An ambulance!” MAP: “I bet so! What do you think the ambulance is doing?” Child: “I think someone got hurt.” MAP: “You're probably right. Ambulances are for medical emergencies.”

  2. Narrate whatever is happening. It sounds like it would be redundant, but it's surprising how naturally this communication form works. Simply speak aloud whatever is going on in the environment. This style works especially well with infants and toddlers since they are still learning associations between words and events, but it works well with preschoolers and older kids as well, as a way to validate their experiences and begin conversation about them. E.g., if a toddler stacks six blocks atop one another, you can say something like “you stacked six blocks!” Pro-tip: this is also a GREAT replacement for saying things like “good job,” which are relatively impersonal. If a child achieves something, rather than saying “good job,” you can simply repeat their accomplishment back to them and let them know that they accomplished it. In theory, it helps them take pride in their own accomplishments rather than seeking approval from others. If you'd like to read more about this, I'd recommend checking out this brief article: https://www.alfiekohn.org/article/five-reasons-stop-saying-good-job/

  3. Ask open-ended questions about something immediate in the environment. This provokes the child's personal expression and creativity by allowing them to answer your question however they want to. I'd recommend checking out this website for some excellent examples of open-ended questions: https://minds-in-bloom.com/8-questions-to-ask-children-about-their/ Pro-tip: never assume you know what a child is drawing; ALWAYS ASK. If you assume wrong, it could be very offensive to the child.

  4. Ask about the child themself. Let's be real — most people love talking about themselves. Asking the child about themself and their life is a reliable way to shift the conversation into something more meaningful. Some good ways to make this transition are with “I noticed that...” or “I see that...” statements followed by a question. E.g., MAP: “I noticed that you have a cat on your shirt; are cats your favorite animal?” Child: “Yeah!” MAP: “Awesome! I like cats. Do you have any pet cats at home?” Child: “No, but I have a dog.” MAP: “Dogs are cool! What's your dog's name?” ... etc. ‏‏‎ ‎

III. Managing MAP feelings

  1. Actually building up the courage to begin an interaction with a child can be daunting. Even non-MAPs often get nervous interacting with kids. In fact, I still get nervous interacting with kids, even after working with dozens of kids as a preschool teacher. It's okay to feel nervous; it's just important not to over-catastrophize the situation when, in reality, as long as you remain appropriate in your interaction, the worst that can happen is you just have an awkward interaction and then go about your day. It's not a big deal. Try not to over-think it, okay? And, if it is any comfort to you, you should know that most kids I know are very non-judgmental (:

  2. For some MAPs, our sexual orientation makes interactions even more difficult because we are also constantly questioning ourselves and our intentions. I promise you — it's OKAY to talk to kids. As long as the interaction stays mutual, non-sexual, and non-abusive, then there is nothing wrong with it. And, the child probably doesn't know that you're attracted to them anyway, so there is no use fearing about that. Regardless of whether you're attracted to men, women, boys, girls, dogs, or squirrels, you have just as much right as anyone else to have safe interactions with people you care about.

  3. A lot of MAPs I've spoken to have worries that they may feel “tempted” to act inappropriately with a child in certain situations. My best advice for these situations is to avoid them, but that's not always possible. My next-best advice is to simply focus on being present in the moment — focus on the child and on the environment. If you're playing with a child, ask yourself, “what is the child experiencing right now?” Better yet, “what is the child learning right now?” And, answer these questions as thoroughly as you can. E.g., imagine a two-year-old child is stacking blocks atop one another — what are they learning? I'd say, they're learning about the force of gravity and how it affects the blocks' ability to balance; they're learning about how to move their own body in a way to stabilize their muscles in just the right position to stack the next block where it needs to be in order to balance. When you think about situations from this angle, one of learning and development, sexual “temptations” often become a thing of the past. And, if they persist, you can always politely excuse yourself for a moment while you calm down.

    Update 3/18/21: “Temptations,” as referenced here, refer to a manifestation of internalized stigma that causes some MAPs to feel like they are a risk to children when they aren't actually a risk. MAPs are not an inherent risk to children. Please view this article for details: https://blog.mapsupport.club/8ruuk2lj7m.

  4. Other “safety precautions” you can consider if you are concerned about your ability to behave appropriately: a) Avoid being alone with a child you're “tempted” to act sexually with; bringing someone along with you, even if they're just listening in on a phone call, can help you feel more empowered to refrain from inappropriate contact. Even bringing along a second child can help mitigate feelings of “temptation.” b) Avoid locations that could be “tempting” to you; some MAPs feel “tempted” by being in a child's bedroom or by being in another secluded area with a child. If it may be “tempting,” avoid it. c) Avoid affection with kids that makes you feel “tempted.” Personally, I think any kind of affection that isn't sexual is perfectly appropriate for kids, but, if you feel that it may make you feel “tempted” to act in inappropriate ways, then avoid it. Draw a line and stick to it. For some people, the line may be at kissing; for others, it may be at hugging; and others will have different lines.

Conclusion

Of course, this is all only scratching the surface of how and why to interact with children, but I hope that it is helpful nonetheless. Perhaps I will make a follow-up post with more details some day (:

If you have any questions, comments, or concerns, please feel free to reach out! https://blog.mapsupport.club/miami/contact-me

 
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from MSC's Official Blog

Hi!

I'm writing you with mixed news that you will want to sit down for. On May 13th, one of our staff members in MAP Support Club, a peer support chat designed for minors, notified us that there was a claim that a relatively new MAP ally on Twitter killed themselves. We were initially skeptical.

The MAP ally's name was Randy, and for the past two to three weeks, they were taking abuse and harassment simply for supporting minor attracted people like myself and those in our community. That led to their death. I know this because one of our allies, Rusty Warner, put a call into an FBI agent he knows, and confirmed on May 14th that they are investigating his suicide, which happened on May 9th. Randy was 19 years old.

As an administrator of MAP Support Club, I am devastated to hear that Randy and those close to him didn't have the support he needed because our support chat, which we run through a partnership with Prostasia Foundation, is well equipped to advise people on how to stay safe on social media and provide support when people need it. We have the proper rules and privacy policy in place.

Until last month, we have kept our chat very private, only telling trusted allies of our existence for fear of being infiltrated by trolls and haters. In the month since we've gone public, we haven't had many trolls. While that can always change, as administrator, I believe it is time that MAP Support Club stops hiding and starts helping. But we can't do it alone.

We don't have therapists in our chat. Our staff doesn't have and doesn't know how to access crisis training resources to help us be more effective in helping people. We don't have the ability to scan our server for illegal images and report offenders. We don't have the ability to actively monitor minor direct messages for possible exploitation. These things take time, connections, technical expertise, and of course, money.

We need your help. If you run an organization with a website, please consider listing our blog page, and stay tuned for that to update to a website in the next few months. If you are a therapist, please consider donating your time. If you have financial resources, please consider sharing them. If you talk to minor attracted people, please talk about our community. If you're not already in our community, please consider joining. All I need is an email with a username you'd like to go by in our chat, and for you to fill out the attached PDF (if you are currently in MSC, please fill out the attached form and email it back as a reply all).

Randy was only trying to help minor attracted people and spread awareness of the challenges and hatred that we face. For that, he was bullied into suicide. Please help us so we can help prevent more people from harming themselves.

Thank you for your time,

Timothy N. Fury

Advocate for the Primary Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse

Administrator in MAP Support Club.

 
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from PedoViking

A couple days ago when we were giving a new member full member status, we discovered a hilarious bug with the MSC Bot.

The bot suddenly started spamming messages, as if it was executing the same command over and over again. The reason?

Whenever a reaction was added to or removed from a message, the bot treated it like it just received the message again!


The Issue

The change in the message stream doesn't really differentiate between a new/removed reaction to a message, and an entirely new message.

This is the “event” the bot receives when a reaction is added or removed from a message:

{
  _id: 'Adyuyjf8MvFcWixi9',
  rid: '738H9FSvBLGwSX5rS',
  msg: 'test emoji',
  ts: { '$date': 1587525487948 },
  u: {
    _id: 'XgHsc6JaAu9HgtaDb',
    username: 'PedoViking',
    name: 'OliverViking'
  },
  _updatedAt: { '$date': 1587525494548 },
  mentions: [],
  channels: [],
  reactions: { ':rocket:': { usernames: [Array] } }
}

It's just the message object itself. How can the bot know that this is a reaction to a message? First one might think to check whether the reactions object is present, but that only solves half of the issue. Because when a reaction is removed, so that no reactions are present on the message anymore, the reactions object will be gone.

The Fix

It turned out to be quite a simple fix. Just had to switch the message handler (it attaches a callback to the changes in the message stream) out with a higher level message handler built into the JavaScript SDK.

Before:

  // Connect the processMessages callback
  driver.reactToMessages(processMessages)

After:

  // Connect the processMessages callback
  driver.respondToMessages(processMessages, {
    rooms: true,
    dm: true,
    edited: false,
  })

This higher level message handler has a lot of built in checks. Most of them are configurable, as shown above. The developer can choose if they want the bot to respond to DMs, edited messages, and which rooms to respond to.

Why does this solve the issue though? How does respondToMessages handle filtering out emojis? Well, a quick look through the source code reveals that it actually just checks whether the message was created before the last message the bot received.

    // Set current time for comparison to incoming
    let currentReadTime = new Date(message.ts.$date)

    // Ignore edited messages if configured to
    if (!config.edited && message.editedAt) return

    // Set read time as time of edit, if message is edited
    if (message.editedAt) currentReadTime = new Date(message.editedAt.$date)

    // Ignore messages in stream that aren't new
    if (currentReadTime <= lastReadTime) return

#devlog #msc #code

 
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from PedoViking

The way MSC Bot handles permissions before today was by having an if statement in every command that required a specific role:

Since every command has roughly the same structure, there was a lot of duplication of these if statements. Almost every command had one of them.

To get rid of this duplication, and to simplify the creation of new commands, I added an option field to the exported object (each command exports an object with various information about the command) called requireOneOfRoles. This field should be an array of role names, exactly the same array as in the image above.

The exported object from the addMAP command

Now in the main file where I loop over all the commands to check which command is being called, I can now also check if the user has the required permission!

(Yes, I know. That if statement needs some refactoring :P)

MSC Bot functions exactly the same way as it did before all these changes, but it is now easier for me to add more commands, because I don't have to do the permission logic every time!


Something that did change the way MSC Bot functions though, was the help command. Previously the help command just used to show all the commands, didn't matter if you actually had the permissions to execute the commands or not.

Well now, with the refactoring of the permissions, I was able to filter out commands based on the permissions!


#devlog #msc #code

 
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from MSC's Official Blog

Are the blogs public?

You have different settings you can choose for your blog:

  • Unlisted (visible only to those who have the link)
  • Private (only you can view the blog and no one else)
  • password-protected
  • public (open to the entire web)

Can readers follow my blog?

Yes, in a few ways. MSC Blogs is part of the fediverse, meaning that a user on something like Mastodon can follow you from their Mastodon account, your posts will then also appear in their feed. The other way users can follow your blog is by subscribing to an RSS feed.

What can I blog about?

Anything! It doesn't have to be pedophilia related, but it certainly can aswell. Post about whatever you want; use it as a daily journal, post art, poems, songs, your attractions and struggles or victories with it, etc.

Can I delete my blog posts after publishing them?

Yes. You can always delete your blog posts from MSC Blogs.

However, there is a caveat. If someone is following your blog using the fediverse or just simple RSS they will get a copy of your blog post. We cannot guarantee that your blog post will be deleted on other servers.

Basically, the issue with deleting something off of the internet, is that as soon as someone else has a copy of it, there is no guarantee that it can be deleted. Someone might take a screenshot of your post or just copy paste the text somewhere.

 
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from MSC's Official Blog


General Blogs

• "Celibate Pedophiles", by Ethan Edwards — https://celibatepedos.virped.org

• "Not A Monster", by Todd Nickerson — https://notamonsterblog.wordpress.com/

• "Pensamentos Folle", by Lucas P. Folle (Portuguese/English) — http://pensamentosfolle.blogspot.com

• "A Life Less Lonely", by Leonard – https://livingwithpedophilia.wordpress.com/


Blogs and Publications

• Pedophiles About Pedophiliahttps://aboutpedophilia.com/


Other Websites

• MAP Resources, general resources for finding support and community — https://sites.google.com/view/MAPresources

• Virtuous Pedophiles, a website for non-offending, anti-contact pedophiles (fill in contact form to access peer support forum) — http://virped.org

• B4U-ACT, organization to educate mental health providers and promote access to mental health support for MAPs, with a peer support forum for MAPs and support options for friends and relatives — http://b4uact.org

• Christian Pedophile, a website for Christian pedophiles — http://christianpedophile.com/

• Čepek, Czech site for non-offending pedophiles — http://pedofilie-info.cz

• The Primary Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse, site with resources about preventing CSA — https://csaprimaryprevention.org/


#Resources

 
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from MSC's Official Blog


2010

• "Gold Star Pedophiles", Dan Savage, The Stranger (Feb 4, 2010) — http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=3347526


2012

• "Another Gold-Star Pedophile", Dan Savage, The Stranger (Mar 7, 2012) — http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=12927907

• "Do pedophiles deserve sympathy?", James Cantor, CNN (Jun 21, 2012) — http://www.cnn.com/2012/06/21/opinion/cantor-pedophila-sandusky/

• "Meet pedophiles who mean well: The men behind VirtuousPedophiles.com are attracted to children but devoted to denying their desires", Tracy Clark-Flory, Salon.com (Jun 30, 2012) — http://www.salon.com/2012/07/01/meet_pedophiles_who_mean_well/

• "Born This Way: Sympathy and Science for Those Who Want to Have Sex with Children", Cord Jefferson, Gawker.com (Sep 7, 2012) — http://gawker.com/5941037/born-this-way-sympathy-and-science-for-those-who--want-to-have-sex-with-children

• "The Science of Pedophilia: Is It a Sexual Orientation?", Makini Brice, Medical Daily (Sep 7, 2012) — http://www.medicaldaily.com/science-pedophilia-it-sexual-orientation-242403

• "How Can We Stop Pedophiles? Stop treating them like monsters", Jennifer Bleyer, Slate.com (Sep 24, 2012) — http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/medical_examiner/2012/09/stop_childhood_sexual_abuse_how_to_treat_pedophilia_.html

• "Sandusky Will Die in Prison, and We Talked To a Pedophilia Expert", Vinnie Rotondaro, Vice (Oct 9, 2012) — https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/gqwkx4/sandusky-will-die-in-prison-and-we-talked-to-a-pedophilia-expert


2013

• "Paedophilia: Bringing Dark Desires To Light", Jon Henley, The Guardian (Jan 2, 2013) — http://www.theguardian.com/society/2013/jan/03/paedophilia-bringing-dark-desires-light

• "Many researchers taking a different view of pedophilia", Alan Zarembo (Jan 14, 2013) — http://articles.latimes.com/2013/jan/14/local/la-me-pedophiles-20130115

• "The Science of Sex Abuse. Is it right to imprison people for heinous crimes they have not yet committed?", Rachel Aviv, The New Yorker (Jan 14, 2013) — http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2013/01/14/the-science-of-sex-abuse

• "Pedophilia, Preemptive Imprisonment, and the Ethics of Predisposition", Kyle Edwards, Practical Ethics, University of Oxford (Jan 21, 2013) — http://blog.practicalethics.ox.ac.uk/2013/01/pedophilia-preemptive-imprisonment-and-the-ethics-of-predisposition/

• "Are Some Men Born Pedophiles? New Science Says Yes, But Sexologists Say Not So Fast", Steven Rosenfeld, AlterNet (Jan 21, 2013) — http://www.alternet.org/are-some-men-born-pedophiles-new-science-says-yes-sexologists-say-not-so-fast

• "Happy Birthday, Virtuous Pedophiles!", James Cantor, Sexology Today Blog (Jul 15, 2013) — http://www.sexologytoday.org/2013/07/happy-birthday-virtuous-pedophiles.html#more

• "The Missing Link Between Pedophiles and the Rest of Us", Alice Dreger, Pacific Standard (Jul 16, 2013) — https://psmag.com/social-justice/meet-the-hebephiles-the-missing-link-between-pedophiles-and-the-rest-of-us-62633

• "A prevention-first approach to child sexual abuse", Elizabeth Letourneau, The Baltimor Sun (Aug 6, 2013) — http://articles.baltimoresun.com/2013-08-06/news/bs-ed-child-sexual-abuse-20130806_1_child-sexual-abuse-substance-abuse-csa

• "I, Pedophile", David Goldberg, The Atlantic (Aug 26, 2013) — https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/08/i-pedophile/278921/

• "What Can Be Done About Pedophilia?", Alice Dreger, The Atlantic (Aug 26, 2013) — http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/08/what-can-be-done-about-pedophilia/279024/

• "Not All Pedophiles Have Mental Disorder, American Psychiatric Association Says In New DSM", Hunter Stuart, The Huffington Post (Nov 1, 2013) — http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/01/dsm-pedophilia-mental-disorder-paraphilia_n_4184878.html

• "Is Pedophilia a Sexual Orientation?", Laura Kane, Toronto Star (Dec 22, 2013) — http://www.thestar.com/news/insight/2013/12/22/is_pedophilia_a_sexual_orientation.html


2014

• "Inside the mind of a paedophile", Martin McKenzie-Murray, The Saturday Paper (May 10, 2014) — https://www.thesaturdaypaper.com.au/news/society/2014/05/10/inside-the-mind-paedophile/1399644000

• "Study Finds Pedophiles’ Brains Wired to Find Children Attractive", Charlotte Lytton, Daily Beast (May 23, 2014) — http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/05/23/study-finds-pedophiles-brains-wired-to-find-children-attractive.html

• "Virtuous Pedophiles group gives support therapy cannot", Amber Hildebrandt, CBC News (Jul 18, 2014) — http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/virtuous-pedophiles-group-gives-support-therapy-cannot-1.2710160

• "The Pedophiles Who Didn’t Want to Hurt Children", Choire Sicha, The Awl (Aug 11, 2014) — https://theawl.com/the-pedophiles-who-didnt-want-to-hurt-children-7ea5d5a81c17

• "You’re 16. You’re a Pedophile. You Don’t Want to Hurt Anyone. What Do You Do Now?", Luke Malone, Matter (Aug 11, 2014) — https://medium.com/matter/youre-16-youre-a-pedophile-you-dont-want-to-hurt-anyone-what-do-you-do-now-e11ce4b88bdb

• "Should we do more to help paedophiles?", Rebecca Roache, Practical Ethics, University of Oxford (Aug 12, 2014) — http://blog.practicalethics.ox.ac.uk/2014/08/should-we-do-more-to-help-paedophiles/

• "Pedophilia: A Disorder, Not a Crime", Margo Kaplan, The New York Times (Oct 5, 2014) — https://www.nytimes.com/2014/10/06/opinion/pedophilia-a-disorder-not-a-crime.html

• "We Need to Make It Easier for Pedophiles To Seek Help", Elizabeth Letourneau, Time (Oct 10, 2014) — http://time.com/3486493/preventing-child-sex-abuse-stephen-collins/

• "'I Am A Paedophile': Is Our Approach To Sex Offenders Helping To Create More Victims?", Steve Humphries, The Independent (Nov 24, 2014) — http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/i-am-a-paedophile-is-our-approach-to-sex-offenders-helping-to-create-more-victims-9880699.html

• "When society mistakes pedophiles for molesters", Kate Ferguson, dw.com (Dec 12, 2014) — http://www.dw.com/en/when-society-mistakes-pedophiles-for-molesters/a-18104211

• "Virtuous pedophiles exist", Kelly Babchisin, NextGenForensic (Dec 19, 2014) — https://nextgenforensic.wordpress.com/2014/12/19/virtuous-pedophiles-exist/


2015

• "Can you stop a paedophile before they even start?", Dominic Hurst, BBC News (Feb 4, 2015) — http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-31114106

• "5 Ways We Misunderstand Pedophilia (That Makes it Worse)", Robert Evans, Cracked.com (Feb 8, 2015) — http://www.cracked.com/personal-experiences-1658-5-ways-were-making-pedophilia-worse.html

• "How Precision in Language Can Help Prevent Sexual Abuse", Kelly Babchishin, Sexual Abuse: A Journal of Research and Treatment (Feb 20, 2015) — http://sajrt.blogspot.se/2015/02/how-precision-in-language-can-help.html?m=1/

• "Child Celibate: Understanding Non-Offending Pedophilia", Alexander McBride Wilson, Lens Culture (May 2015) — https://www.lensculture.com/projects/105782-child-celibate-understanding

• "In Germany, they treat paedophiles as victims… not offenders", Rose Troup Buchanan, The Independent (Jul 14, 2015) — https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/in-germany-they-treat-paedophiles-as-victims-not-offenders-10387468.html

• "Facing Disturbing Truths About Pedophilia Could Help Us Keep Kids Safer", Brian Whitney, Pacific Standard (Jul 16, 2015) — https://psmag.com/social-justice/facing-disturbing-truths-about-pedophilia-could-help-us-keep-kids-safer

• "As courts censure civil detention practices, is it time for professionals to speak up?", David Prescott, Forensic Psychologist (Sep 14, 2015) — http://forensicpsychologist.blogspot.se/2015/09/as-courts-censure-civil-detention.html

• "I’m a pedophile, but not a monster", Todd Nickerson, Salon.com (archive.is) (Sep 21, 2015) — http://archive.li/NhhZ4#selection-2353.1-2353.36

• "I'm a Pedophile, You're the Monsters", Todd Nickerson, Salon.com (archive.is) (Sep 30, 2015) — http://archive.li/VYx1X

• "How Germany treats paedophiles before they offend", Kate Connolly, The Guardian (Oct 16, 2015) — https://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/oct/16/how-germany-treats-paedophiles-before-they-offend

• "The pedophile I could not help", Debra Soh, Salon.com (Oct 27, 2015) — http://www.salon.com/2015/10/27/the_pedophile_i_could_not_help_he_was_not_a_monster_or_a_molester_the_system_destroyed_him_anyway/

• "Sympathy for the Deviant", Jennifer Bleyer, Psychology Today (Nov 3, 2015) — https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201511/sympathy-the-deviant

• "Are paedophiles' brains wired differently?", BBC News Magazine (Nov 24, 2015) — http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-34858350

• "Of People and Pedophiles", Sean Smith, The Varsity Magazine (Nov 28, 2015) — http://magazine.thevarsity.ca/2015/11/28/of-people-and-pedophiles/


2016

• "Stigma and non-offending pedophiles", Ian McPhail, NextGenForensic (Jan 10, 2016) — https://nextgenforensic.wordpress.com/2016/01/10/stigma-and-non-offending-pedophiles/

• "Can Child Dolls Keep Pedophiles from Offending?", Roc Morin, The Atlantic (Jan 11, 2016) — https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/01/can-child-dolls-keep-pedophiles-from-offending/423324/

• "Can Virtual Sex Prevent Pedophiles from Harming Children in Real Life?", Cecilia D’Anastasio, Broadly (Jan 14, 2016) — https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/d7am4w/can-virtual-sex-prevent-pedophiles-from-harming-children-in-real-life

• "Realizing You're A Pedophile Can Make you Want To Kill Yourself", Paul Willis, Vice (Jan 15, 2016) — https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/yvxkpv/realizing-youre-a-pedophile-can-make-you-want-to-kill-yourself

• "Sentencing Memorandum in Case Involving Child Pornography", Jack Weinstein, US District Court, Eastern NY (Jan 21, 2016) — https://www.scribd.com/doc/296450418/USA-v-RJ-sentencing-pdf

• "Should this man go to prison for buying a child sex doll?", Kristen Brown, Fusion (Feb 1, 2016) — http://fusion.kinja.com/should-this-man-go-to-prison-for-buying-a-child-sex-dol-1793854394

• "For Looking at Child Porn, a Judge Imposes a Sentence of Days Rather Than Years", Jacob Sullum, Reason.com (Feb 1, 2016) — http://reason.com/blog/2016/02/01/for-looking-at-child-pornography-a-feder

• "DARK NET: The “Virtuous” Online Pedophile Forums", Ian Frisch, Vocativ (Feb 3, 2016) — http://www.vocativ.com/279399/pedophile-forums-dark-net/

• "Newfoundland’s Child Sex Doll Trial Raises Uncomfortable Questions About Pedophilia and the Law", Dorian Geiger, Vice (Feb 25, 2016) — https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/kwxj7w/newfoundlands-child-sex-doll-trial-raises-uncomfortable-questions-about-pedophilia-and-the-law

• "What should we do about paedophiles?", Sophie Elmhirst, The Guardian (Mar 1, 2016) — https://www.theguardian.com/society/2016/mar/01/what-should-we-do-about-paedophiles?CMP=share_btn_link

• "I, Pedophile dares to empathize", Martin Knelman, The Star (Mar 9, 2016) — https://www.thestar.com/entertainment/television/2016/03/09/i-pedophile-dares-to-empathize-knelman.html

• "Tackling A Tough Subject: Why I Made a Documentary About Pedophiles", Matthew Campea, CBC FirstHand (Mar 10, 2016) — http://www.cbc.ca/firsthand/blog/tackling-a-tough-subject-why-i-made-a-documentary-about-pedophiles

• "Four Misconceptions About Pedophiles", CBC FirstHand (Mar 10, 2016) — http://www.cbc.ca/firsthand/features/four-misconceptions-about-pedophiles

• "Berlin doc terms pedophilia a sexual orientation", The Times of India (Mar 10, 2016) — http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/pune/berlin-doc-terms-pedophilia-a-sexual-orientation/articleshow/51339142.cms

• "The List", Sarah Stillman, The New Yorker (Mar 14, 2016) — http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2016/03/14/when-kids-are-accused-of-sex-crimes

• "Non-Offending Pedophiles Suffer From Isolation", Robert Muller, PhD, Psychology Today (Mar 17, 2016) — https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/talking-about-trauma/201603/non-offending-pedophiles-suffer-isolation

• "Paedophilia a 'sexual orientation – like being straight or gay'", Ian Johnston, Independent (Apr 3, 2016) — http://www.independent.co.uk/news/paedophilia-sexual-orientation-straight-gay-criminal-psychologist-child-sex-abuse-a6965956.html

• "A coming out that has to remain a secret", Ben Kirssen (Apr 13, 2016) — https://pedofieltweets.wordpress.com/2016/04/13/a-coming-out-that-has-to-remain-a-secret/

• "How Should Society Handle Pedophiles Who Haven’t Hurt Anyone?", Jesse Singal, Science of Us (Apr 13, 2016) — http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/04/how-should-society-handle-pedophiles-who-haven-t-hurt-anyone.html

• "How is Pedophilia a Health Issue?", Ruby Prosser Scully, The Medical Republic (Apr 29, 2016) — http://medicalrepublic.com.au/paedophilia-health-issue/

• "Beyond Choice & Reason: Non-Offending Pedophilia", Alexander McBride Wilson, Flint Magazine (May 1, 2016) — http://www.flintmag.com/portfolio/beyond-choice-non-offending-paedophilia/

• "Can paedophilia really be cured with drugs?", Belinda Winder, The Conversation (May 17, 2016) — https://theconversation.com/can-paedophilia-really-be-cured-with-drugs-59216

• "‘Virtuous Pedophiles’ Put Therapists In An Ethical Catch-22", Tracy Clark-Flory, Vocativ (May 23, 2016) — http://www.vocativ.com/315929/pedophiles-seeking-help-put-therapists-in-ethical-catch-22/

• "Disclosing a sexual interest in children to others: The experience of a non-offending pedophile", Ian McPhail interview with @ender, NextGenForensic (Jun 12, 2016) — https://nextgenforensic.wordpress.com/2016/06/12/disclosing-a-sexual-interest-in-children-to-others-the-experience-of-a-non-offending-pedophile/

• "Is Paedophilia A New Sexual Orientation?", Chester Frampton, Wessex Scene (Jun 15, 2016) — https://www.wessexscene.co.uk/magazine/2016/06/15/is-paedophilia-a-new-sexual-orientation/

• "Should We Lift the Stigma on “Virtuous Pedophiles”?", Sherry Colb, Verdict (Jul 12, 2016) — https://verdict.justia.com/2016/07/12/lift-stigma-virtuous-pedophiles

• "First, save the children", The Economist (Aug 11, 2016) — https://www.economist.com/news/leaders/21704794-punitive-laws-intended-protect-children-sexual-assault-too-often-make-them-less

• " Mandatory Reporting Consultation", StopSO (Aug, 27,2016) — https://stopso.org.uk/mandatory-reporting/

• "Shedding light on the dark field", The Economist (Aug 13, 2016) — https://www.economist.com/news/international/21704795-understanding-sexual-attraction-children-essential-if-they-are-be-kept

• "What It’s Like to Be a Celibate Pedophile", Alexa Tsoulis-Reay, Science of Us (Aug 18, 2016) — http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/08/what-its-like-to-be-a-celibate-pedophile.html

• "Preventing Child Abuse: How To Work With Paedophiles To Stop The First Crime From Happening", Juliet Grayson, The Huffington Post (Aug 26, 2016) — http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/juliet-grayson/child-abuse-paedophilia_b_11684296.html

• "Counterpoint: After Jacob, work harder to prevent child sexual abuse", Elizabeth Letourneau, Star Tribune (Sep 8, 2016) — http://www.startribune.com/counterpoint-after-jacob-work-harder-to-prevent-child-sexual-abuse/392817391/

• "A Different Perspective for Stopping Child Sexual Abuse", Elizabeth Letourneau, Psychology Today (Sep 11, 2016) — https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/prevention-now/201609/different-perspective-stopping-child-sexual-abuse

• "He Is A Paedophile, But That Does Not Make Him A Child Molester", Juliet Grayson, The Huffington Post (Sep 18, 2016) — http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/juliet-grayson/he-is-a-paedophile-but-th_b_12046562.html

• "Should we care when Paedophiles are murdered?", Cursed E (Sep 21, 2016) — https://cursede.blog/2016/09/21/paedophiles-anger-and-death/

• "Why Would Someone Choose to Be a Monster?",Simon Lewsen, The Walrus (Sep 28, 2016) — https://thewalrus.ca/why-would-someone-choose-to-be-a-monster/

• "Brains of paedophiles who abuse children are different to those who do not, scientists discover", Ian Johnston, The Independent (Oct 25, 2016) — http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/paedophile-brains-difference-child-sex-abusers-those-who-dont-study-a7378911.html

• "Inside The Brain Of A Pedophile: MRI Scans Reveal Differences In Those Who Harm Children And Those Who Do Not", Dana Dovey, Medical Daily (Oct 25, 2016) — http://www.medicaldaily.com/inside-brain-pedophile-mri-scans-reveal-differences-those-who-harm-children-402364

• "Model project for pedophiles saved", DW.com (Oct 25, 2016) — http://www.dw.com/en/model-project-for-pedophiles-saved/a-36154362

• "He's a 'Good Pedophile'", Chantal McCulligh, Anxiety Gone (Oct 27, 2016) — http://anxiety-gone.com/hes-good-pedophile/

• "'Virtuous pedophile' who admits being attracted to children but has never abused anyone is trying to encourage others in his situation to come forward", Julian Robinson, Mail Online (Nov 17, 2016) — http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3945648/Virtuous-pedophile-admits-attracted-children-never-abused-trying-encourage-situation-come-forward.html

• "Self-confessed paedophile claims he's ETHICAL for not abusing children – and wants to change society's views on his sexual desires", Tom Midlane & Anthony Bond, The Mirror (Nov 17, 2016) — http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/world-news/self-confessed-paedophile-claims-hes-9277056

• "Here’s a Weird New Discovery About Pedophiles", Jesse Singal, Science of Us (Nov 23, 2016) — http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/11/heres-a-new-discovery-about-pedophiles.html

• "Can Programs Like "Help Wanted" Prevent Child Sexual Abuse?", Elizabeth Letourneau, Psychology Today (Dec 12, 2016) — https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/prevention-now/201612/can-programs-help-wanted-prevent-child-sexual-abuse


2017

• "'Comfortably out' paedophile says he chooses not to act on his urges but fantasises about children", Jon Sharman, The Independent (Jan 7, 2017) — http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/gary-gibson-comfortably-out-paedophile-urges-mental-health-tabitha-abel-a7514746.html

• "Who is Gary Gibson and what is a ‘virtuous paedophile’?", Maryse Godden, The Sun (Jan 11, 2017) — https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/2587878/gary-gibson-virtuous-paedophile-christian-anti-pornography/

• "Paedophiles need help, not condemnation – I should know", BBC Three (Feb 10, 2017) — http://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/item/3216b48d-3195-4f67-8149-54586689ae3c

• "British wife of ‘virtuous paedophile’ who is attracted to girls as young as SIX still loves him and plans to stick by him", Tom Gillespie, The Sun (Feb 15, 2017) — https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/2548631/british-wife-of-virtuous-paedophile-who-is-attracted-to-girls-as-young-as-six-still-loves-him-and-says-he-has-a-mental-health-issue/

• "We need to talk about pedophiles", Jim Brown, CBC Radio (Feb 19, 2017) — http://www.cbc.ca/radio/the180/sometimes-it-s-ok-to-drop-civility-rewriting-historic-road-signs-and-understanding-pedophiles-1.3986807/we-need-to-talk-about-pedophiles-1.3986933

• "Salon Shouldn’t Have Unpublished Its Article by a Pedophile Author", Jesse Singal, Science of Us (Feb 22, 2017) — http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2017/02/salon-shouldnt-have-unpublished-its-pedophilia-article.html

• "To stop paedophiles, we need to help them. But no one wants to hear that", Deborah Orr, The Guardian (Feb 28, 2017) — https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/feb/28/not-jailing-paedophiles-protecting-children-crisis-care?CMP=share_btn_tw

• "To prevent child sex abuse, paedophilia needs to recognised as mental disorder", RN Bhaskar, The Free Press Journal (Mar 8, 2017) — http://www.freepressjournal.in/interviews/to-prevent-child-sex-abuse-paedophilia-needs-to-recognised-as-mental-disorder/1030860

• "Paedophilia is 'fate, not a choice', leading scientist claims", Tom Embury-Dennis, The Independent (Mar 14, 2017) — http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/paedophilia-causes-not-a-choice-fate-claims-leading-scientist-a7629786.html

• "Paedophilia is a fate and not a choice, German doctor says", Divya Chandrababu, The Times of India (Mar 14, 2017) — http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/chennai/paedophilia-is-a-fate-and-not-a-choice-german-doctor-says/articleshow/57619901.cms

• "The Unjust, Irrational, and Unconstitutional Consequences of Pedophilia Panic", Jacob Sullum, Reason (Mar 15, 2017) — https://reason.com/archives/2017/03/15/sex-and-kids

• "Child Sex Dolls Are Horrifying — But Some Say They Prevent Abuse", Tracy Clark-Flory, Vocativ (Mar 16, 2017) — http://www.vocativ.com/411779/child-sex-dolls-abuse/

• "Challenging societal negativity towards paedophiles", Craig Harper and Ross Bartels, NextGenForensic (Mar 26, 2017) — https://nextgenforensic.wordpress.com/2017/03/26/challenging-societal-negativity-towards-paedophiles/

• "An Uncomfortable Truth Under Scope: What Causes Pedophilia?", Mr. Peppermint, Onedio (Apr 24, 2017) — http://onedio.co/content/an-uncomfortable-truth-under-scope-what-causes-pedophilia-15951

• "My grown up son just told me he is sexually attracted to children", Dr. Sarah Goode, NetDoctor (Jun 8, 2017) — http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/healthy-living/sexual-health/a28334/paedophile-family/

• "Shocking study shows just half of those who watch child porn are paedophiles", Jon Rogers and Monical Pallenberg, Express (Jul 10, 2017) — http://www.express.co.uk/news/world/826985/Child-pornography-study-paedophiles-Jens-Wagner-research-Elysium

• “Two paedophiles speak: What it’s like to be born in a body with a “cursed” mind.”, Michelle Andrews, Mamamia (Sep 2, 2017) — http://www.mamamia.com.au/non-offending-paedophiles/

• "The young paedophiles who say they don’t abuse children", Catherine Burns, BBC (Sep 11, 2017) — http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-41213657

• "What it's like to be a paedophile", Kelan Mahon, The Overtake (Dec 7, 2017) — https://theovertake.com/~alpha/being-a-paedophile/


2018

• "Is attraction to an age group another kind of sexual orientation?", Michael C. Seto, The Conversation (Jan 23, 2018) — http://theconversation.com/is-attraction-to-an-age-group-another-kind-of-sexual-orientation-88074

• "Online Support Groups Can Keep Pedophiles From Offending but They Keep Getting Shut Down", Katie Herzog, The Stranger (Jul 20, 2018) — https://www.thestranger.com/slog/2018/07/20/29453977/online-support-groups-can-keep-pedophiles-from-offending-but-they-keep-getting-shut-down


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